"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Smoking Pot

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This may sound completely crazy but when I smoke pot I feel very beta which is why I limit smoking to evenings and all day on weekends haha j/k

but even more interesting is I notice social dynamics very intensly...
to the point where the there words mean nothing and their actions and topics of choice define their biggest personality traits...

anyone else notice this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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+1 on your comment about feeling "beta."

Pot and being outgoing don't mix for me. I stick to alcohol if I'm going to use anything and still want to maintain my personality.
 

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PhatE1vis said:
+1 on your comment about feeling "beta."

Pot and being outgoing don't mix for me. I stick to alcohol if I'm going to use anything and still want to maintain my personality.
ya same here. i dont smoke weed cause i find it hard to talk in complete sentences and i feel depressed. when im drunk its a whole nother story..
 

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Weed really puts me into my own world. I start just flaying my arms around and speaking gibberish for an hour or so after a joint. Of course it still feels good though, it is a drug.

I'm gonna be politically incorrect and say really the best drug for trying to be outgoing is infact cocaine if you've ever tried it before. Getting drunk makes you a little too obvious and sloppy. You shouldn't rely on anything though.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bvbidd said:
I'm gonna be politically incorrect and say really the best drug for trying to be outgoing is infact cocaine if you've ever tried it before.
lol you can say that again. Just make sure you got some good willpower if you gonna try it 'once'.
 

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when im super high im not really into meeting new people. i like to do my own thing.

but i will say that some of the best sex ive ever had has been when im high. its fantastic.

-SLB
 

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Men who smoke alot of pot end up growing breasts. Enough said.
 

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That's just from the munchies, they have yet to find a connection with lower test and chronic pot use.

You get lower test with chronic alcohol use though.
 

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"Men who smoke alot of pot end up growing breasts. Enough said".
Lots of studies have proven that false. Ironically, I developed gynecomastia before I started smoking. Had it taken care of senior year in high school, the same time that I started smoking a 1/4 to a 1/2oz a week. I've been puffing like a chimney ever since and still got a hard flat chest. It is more BS propaganda from the government.

OP, pot def. makes me more introspective and maybe self critical when I'm high. I used to think that it hampered my social abilities...but it really is just a state of mind, I've gamed girls succesfully when stoned, even if they weren't. I am more smoother when I'm sober or drinking(but not hammered), but if you have the confidence and can still make conversation thats all that matters. But if I'm going out with the intent of picking up girls I usually don't smoke beforehand. Least harmful drug to use though, it's great! :cheer:


also coke just made me want to grind me teeth and I feel like I have add...not the way I want to sarge. def. not one of my favorite drugs.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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...and that's how I met Bob. Bob had b!tch t!ts....:crackup:

Oh and I'll just throw this out there... if you really want to bond with a chick, trip shrooms together. "Builds rapport" is an understatement, you'll feel like you just lived out a movie together.
 

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The best drug to do with a chick is E.

No gaming required there lol. Rapport is automatic.
 

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When i was younger i used to find weed as an excuse to hang out with someone... Id always say... Hey want to match?......
As far as cocaine goes, its okay in small does mixed with alchol and i agree with the Inside man the jaw movment is more noticeable than you think,, the girl might be thinking u have a jaw problem or expect you've been usuing cocaine and alot of women i know do not like cocaine and that could **** it upp
 

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miniPIMPIN said:
ya same here. i dont smoke weed cause i find it hard to talk in complete sentences and i feel depressed. when im drunk its a whole nother story..
Same for me. The worst thing I can do at a party is take a few hits. Instant-zombie. It's better for just chilling with a small group.

Actually, after about 12+ years of smoking, sometimes heavily, sometimes sporadically, it doesn't really do it for me anymore. I think I've been outsmoked.
 

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Most people should stay away from pot as a social drug.

However, if you smoke a lot, it does make for easy bar pickup. "Hey lets go get high!" is a probably one of the highest percentage bar-is-closing pickup lines out there. The fact that you have to hide smoking makes for instant isolation, which is the hardest part of a new pickup. It's easier to get a chick to make out with you in the bar than it is to get a girl to come to your place afterward, even if you have not made out yet. Once she's back at your place drunk and stoned at 3 am, you don't need witty banter any more.

Everyone has their own preferences, but I really don't like coke or especially the people you meet when you do coke. Same with E. I can tolerate a hot chick on them, at least for a while, but personally for a guy, I don't think they mix well with sex.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've smoked weed for about 7 years, now I vaporize, which is a lot healthier. Still, I only do it at night, not before I go to work or socialize; it kills my game. I tend to mumble more and I am really self-cautious when stoned, so it's not a great idea to do it when you have to socialize. Then again, that's just me, I know people who are the exact opposite.
 

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I can't game at all when I'm high. My sentences often aren't complete or don't make sense and I bable on about nothing lots of times. Plus I feel kind of paranoid like they know that I'm high lol. So yeah not good for social gatherings. Alcohol is a lot better.
 
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