VincentNew
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I do not believe in a fate that falls on men however they act; but I do believe in a fate that falls on them unless they act.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
Thats a lotta strength gain...percentwise speaking.
Congrats dude.
Congrats dude.
Thanks, my weightlifting got effed up when the teacher gave us the wrong workout schedule. I was trying to hangclean 125, when I just got to doing 95.novaknight said:
Deadlifts and squats are the same maybe with 5 extra lbs.
12/6/11
Anyway, I am not gone. I hit on two girls last week and just shot for their numbers out of the air after an introduction and a short conversation. One was more serious and the other was just a test of confidence. My friends give me quite a bit of respect for doing what I am doing now. Today, I was walking out of the locker room to wrestling practice when a girl said "Hola" to me. Then, BOOM! Almost like second nature, I stopped and talked to her for a bit and introduced myself. After about a minute or two, I shot for the number. I have noticed that girls get all flustered as if they have never seen this behavior before. She had a friend next to her who gave me her number. I thought it was alright because the girl I was hitting on did not try to stop her from giving me her number.
Practice was great as always, first meet tomorrow. I am not very good at wrestling, but that is the wrong mindset to have. I am in it to win it this year, and no bull****ting myself.
Until then,
Smock
Jack Wealthy
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How do you shoot for a number?Smock said:
If you're interested in destroying in wrestling then try Judo. I used to be serious into MMA and was mainly wrestling but then when I got into Judo I just started destroying. It made up for weight differences. Having said that, a lot of Judo throws are illegal in wrestling so you have to learn a few which work- the Gi throws are usually fine and it doesn't take much effort to transfer the skill without a Gi.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
@Jack Wealthy
I used to do Tae Kwon Do when I was younger. In wrestling, I have problems getting off of the bottom via. stand or a sit out. Mat return everytime I try to escape.
To shoot for a number, after a little conversation and introduction, just say something like, "Hey we can hang out sometime, you should join me. What's your number?" You do not necessarily have to include the hang out part. Just a "What's your number?" will do. Also remember that girls will take it as though you are trying to start a relationship or something, or they may be flustered as said.
I used to do Tae Kwon Do when I was younger. In wrestling, I have problems getting off of the bottom via. stand or a sit out. Mat return everytime I try to escape.
To shoot for a number, after a little conversation and introduction, just say something like, "Hey we can hang out sometime, you should join me. What's your number?" You do not necessarily have to include the hang out part. Just a "What's your number?" will do. Also remember that girls will take it as though you are trying to start a relationship or something, or they may be flustered as said.
ohbe
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Huge props to you for writing this journal. Gonna keep following it from now on as there are many things that I can relate to and I can imagine myself in your shoes. Also, awesome attitude you got there 
VinnyFromGermany
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A man does what he must - in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures - and that is the basis of all human morality.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Dude, you remind me of myself except that you hit on more girls! Great journal, I'll keep reading. And I'd love to hear more about these number closes, sounds like you go up, make them laugh a couple times, then ask to get their number. About right?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
1/12/12
Havn't posted in a while. Kind of been taking a break. I have seen my name get tossed around the school a few times saying "I love blah," or whatever. I do not want to look desperate or something. There is another girl I am going to hit on very soon.
Wrestling has been going great so far this year. 9 wins, 1 loss. I was undefeated up to 5. I had a match yesterday from a kid who was a higher weight class than me. I was 105, he was 115. I find stuff like that to be stupid excuses, to lose to or win. Anyway, I have an update on my weight lifting.
Squat-155 10 times
Bench-120 7 times
Hang clean-100 10 times
Deadlift-Havn't dead lifted in forever(hasn't been an exercise on the list in gym)
Height-5'4"
Weight-105 lbs.
Age-16(almost 17)
Bodyfat-5.6%(may post a picture).
Until then,
Smock
Havn't posted in a while. Kind of been taking a break. I have seen my name get tossed around the school a few times saying "I love blah," or whatever. I do not want to look desperate or something. There is another girl I am going to hit on very soon.
Wrestling has been going great so far this year. 9 wins, 1 loss. I was undefeated up to 5. I had a match yesterday from a kid who was a higher weight class than me. I was 105, he was 115. I find stuff like that to be stupid excuses, to lose to or win. Anyway, I have an update on my weight lifting.
Squat-155 10 times
Bench-120 7 times
Hang clean-100 10 times
Deadlift-Havn't dead lifted in forever(hasn't been an exercise on the list in gym)
Height-5'4"
Weight-105 lbs.
Age-16(almost 17)
Bodyfat-5.6%(may post a picture).
Until then,
Smock
Jack Wealthy
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I doubt your bf% is that low. I was around 7 when I was anorexic and I had an eight pack, weighed 59 kilos and was 175cm.
ohbe
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Is there a way to check your bf on your own?
Jack Wealthy
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You need hardigm(?) calipers.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
@ohbe
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=body+fat+caliper
It will probably come with a chart(or whatever) to calculate the measurements. Or punch the numbers into an online calculator.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=body+fat+caliper
It will probably come with a chart(or whatever) to calculate the measurements. Or punch the numbers into an online calculator.
NorwegianDJ
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Theres several formulaes online. Choose a good one and stick with it.Smock said:
2/2/12
I went to a wrestling tournament and I took home 2nd in the tournament. I should have taken home 1st. I had to wrestle another kid from my own school. I lost and I should have beaten him. He was fresh with it being his first match of the day, I was on my second and did not recieve a good break. I was gased by the second period. Well, can't undo it.
Anyway, I was at a wrestling meet at home. I had started talking to this girl afterschool. She is a cheerleader as far as I know. I started talking to her, with small chit chat, made some jokes, made her smile. She gave that question if I was 'gay.' I didn't know what to say. By that time I just asked for her number and she said "No." I thought I was being a creep. She is still talking to me though. Just going to wait and see I guess.
Until then,
Smock
I went to a wrestling tournament and I took home 2nd in the tournament. I should have taken home 1st. I had to wrestle another kid from my own school. I lost and I should have beaten him. He was fresh with it being his first match of the day, I was on my second and did not recieve a good break. I was gased by the second period. Well, can't undo it.
Anyway, I was at a wrestling meet at home. I had started talking to this girl afterschool. She is a cheerleader as far as I know. I started talking to her, with small chit chat, made some jokes, made her smile. She gave that question if I was 'gay.' I didn't know what to say. By that time I just asked for her number and she said "No." I thought I was being a creep. She is still talking to me though. Just going to wait and see I guess.
Until then,
Smock
NorwegianDJ
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Either you act gay or she's perplexed that you don't have any girls. Take a pick.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Yo Norwegian, I think we have it easy when it comes to numbers yeah? I mean I have been rejected alot but I don't remember ever being with numbers...Smock, you guys must have it rough I guess.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.