"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thenewreign

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For as long as I can remember, I've always been that person who is smiling or laughing at inappropriate times and I don't know why. Lately it's been getting worse too, like whenever I talk to someone or look them in the eyes I get this uncontrollable grin across my face and I CANT CONTROL IT. It's been kinda getting on my nerves lately cause I feel like I can't have a conversation with someone without them thinking I'm not taking them seriously.
Has anyone else had ever this problem? I did some reading and some people say that it could be a sign of social anxiety. I accept who I am as a person although admittedly I do feel a bit awkward sometimes when there's too many people around. I've studied meditation and entheogens and found that they help to get in touch with your subconcious mind. I feel like there is some kind of underlying reason for this behaviour that I need to come to terms with but I don't know what it could be or how else to find it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My friend is like that whenever the subject of his dad, who died two years ago, comes up. I could definitely see it being a sign of anxiety. Just relax when you talk to people and don't take yourself too seriously. Try doing and saying stuff that you wouldn't normally do in public, act impulsively for a day, so normal conversations aren't as big of a deal.
 
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Damn, I have this. When it comes, I start to feel fake and can' put a true smile. I thought I was just paranoid or something but it looks like I have social anxiety.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mindgamez

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Yeah I see what you mean. I had that too sometimes. I used to feel anxious during a conversation and *prepare* myself to laugh at the joke.
My mind went like : Oh he's telling a joke! Okay, prepare to laugh, make sure it doesn't look fake.

Which is totally ridiculous... Haha, but yeah just practice being present to the moment and everything will be real and natural. Assume the best, that people are friendly, etc.
 
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