Smiling is the KEY

[Obey Propaganda]

Smile all the time. When you're walking, when you're talking. Not a huge cheesy one, or a ****y one, just a normal one. And do it slowly.

It conveys a few things to people.

1.) You're happy with yourself
2.) You're confident
3.) You're friendly
4.) You're not nervous

And that's attractive.

Remember, 92% of communication is through your body language, not your words.

 

[saber]

this is not true...

smiling in many cases shows submissive behaviour
it also says you are seeking rapport for no reason

dont get me wrong a great smile goes a looong way...but its best not to have a stupid grin on your face all the time


I have tried and tested this

 

[Lishy]

:nono: It is less about the smiling, seeing a guy walking along the road grinning to himself would be a bit freaky, but make your face look happy and not angry:cuss: or miserable .

Dont frown - You need to be easy to talk to!

Oh and give loads of these >>>>>>:flowers: and none of these >>>>>:moon: or you will get >>>>>>>>:kick:


Good luck smiley suckers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:crackup:

 

[jcap]

grin is good
big smile looks gay
smile when you see a female is great
make sure its natural

make sure you smile enough often so its natural and the muscles don't feel tight.

when the muscles are tight, it looks unnatural

 

[Purple-Haze]

I agree. A smile conveys so much (usually means he doesn't have a chip on his shoulder, is laid back and liking life).

 

[ketostix]

This is the basis of my "The x factor" thread. Some people confuse advice like smiling. It's not about smiling all the time, it's about smiling at the right times. In other words, good expressiveness.

 

[Purple-Haze]

This is the basis of my "The x factor" thread. Some people confuse advice like smiling. It's not about smiling all the time, it's about smiling at the right times. In other words, good expressiveness.

This goes without saying. I doubt the OP was suggesting that a man walk around in a park, alone, smiling to himself.

Obviously, context is everything.

 

[schttrj]

this is not true...

smiling in many cases shows submissive behaviour
it also says you are seeking rapport for no reason

dont get me wrong a great smile goes a looong way...but its best not to have a stupid grin on your face all the time


I have tried and tested this

i agree with this, and this is a very true tested thing that in case of a HB 9 if u make eye contact, she makes eye contact and maybe maintains or not maintains it, if u smile first, i have seen its kind of submissive behaviour in this case and its better if u do what she does. thats in fact more attractive. smiling should be in terms of reward to the girl's attempt in gaining and working for u.

 

[Obey Propaganda]

i have seen its kind of submissive behaviour in this case and its better if u do what she does

And waiting to see what she does isn't submissive?

You fail.

 

[schttrj]

And waiting to see what she does isn't submissive?

You fail.

well, if u say fail, i dont fail really first of all, it is one of the truths of life. and another thing, first actually it increases the tension or anticipation factor. though i dont really like theories much since they dont work always. and why would u smile randomly at any stranger? u can walk the walk, talk the talk but u look needy if u just smile first after making eye contact. i feel when u lock ur eyes with hers, u show ur interest and when u smile after that, its like u instantly fall into the pursuer category. i would like some girls to answer this too and some really experienced guys to let me know what they think.

AND JUST TO LET YOU ALL KNOW, ALL MY FRIENDS SAY THAT I SMILE AND LAUGH A LOT AND THEY LIKE IT. BUT SELDOM DO I SMILE OR LAUGH TO BREAK THE ICE WITH A GIRL. IF I AM NOT EXPERIENCED WITH GIRLS, IM QUITE EXPERIENCED WITH SMILE. I M SURE OF THAT.

 

[ketostix]

This goes without saying. I doubt the OP was suggesting that a man walk around in a park, alone, smiling to himself.

Obviously, context is everything.

You are taking thigs to the extreme. Well actually maybe youre not but the people disagreeing with him are. Obviously you smile during deep eye contact or in accordance with saying something funny etc, but not all the time, although that isn't as bad as some might think. That is the difference between being smooth and expressive and being forced and unusual.

 

[DonGorgon]

I seldom smile cause i am very grave , melancholy and serious... but the right woman can make me smile uncontrolably..

 

[sosilky]

Smile all the time. When you're walking, when you're talking. Not a huge cheesy one, or a ****y one, just a normal one. And do it slowly.

It conveys a few things to people.

1.) You're happy with yourself
2.) You're confident
3.) You're friendly
4.) You're not nervous

And that's attractive.

Remember, 92% of communication is through your body language, not your words.

I totaly agree with this

 

[Blackmm]

If you ever go to Hip Hop/Urban clubs, 95% of the guys mean-mug, so this will give you a great advantage with the ladies.

 

[sosilky]

If you ever go to Hip Hop/Urban clubs, 95% of the guys mean-mug, so this will give you a great advantage with the ladies.

hmmm

 

[mrRuckus]

What kind of asperger freaks do we have here who need lessons on when to smile?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you ever go to Hip Hop/Urban clubs, 95% of the guys mean-mug, so this will give you a great advantage with the ladies.

Ever wonder if they're actually having a good time? Wonder whether it the intimidating look actually works when sarging. Some guys try pulling it off and instead of looking tough they just look constipated.

 

[AlekNovy]

What kind of asperger freaks do we have here who need lessons on when to smile?

Not nice

Just teasing. But it still ain't nice. I remember a few years ago, when I couldn't even smile to save my life. Shyness, social anxiety, call it what ya not. It's like your mouth is stuck shut with stitches, you just can't.

Boooooooy it's been a long Journey.

About the original topic

I agree with both the original poster and the naysayer replies. Here's why.

True, always having a super huge ear-to-ear grin everywhere isn't "ideal". But if there is one extreme that brings good results, than this is it.

Let me put it this way.

If you always had a smile on, wherever you walked, whomever you talked to, and all the time...[the extreme]. You would have a better sex-life than 90% of men on this planet. You would be more likeable and deemed as more charismatic than 99.999% of people on this planet.

And i'm talking this change alone. Just this one thing.

It's not "ideal".

But it's HARD to get so microcalibrated that you are at the ideal level. There are such minutiae differences that it's mindboggling :crazy:

So instead of being perfectionist and saying "because always smiling isn't ideal, i'll just do what i've always done"... Nah man, Just do it.

It's much better to overdo it... than to under do it. Since the ideal is quite close to the oversmiling extreme.

Smiling always (AlwysBeSmiling) is probably the fastest path to becoming a Don Juan. Over do it (get all the nice benefits), and over time you will naturally smooth it out to the right tone.

Don't throw away the thing that brings an 8 in results with 1 in effort, because it's not a "10".

 

[EricInTheHouse]

I remember when I felt nothing in that list, and I just enclosed myself within these 4 walls, and avoided interaction where I would have to smile. However these days I feel better, and more confident, still somewhat lonely, but I'm feeling better nonetheless. However I am smiling quite a bit these days when I'm out and about.. plus some people think I'm from the south because I say howdy and ya'll, lol. I like saying that, and I say it when I'm feeling good and in a decent mood...... I have said howdy to like 4 people just today... what does that say for ya?

 

[young_gun]

I agree with the OP.

A good smile can do you wonders with women.