There is this girl that I easily consider one of my best friends. We have quite a history. Last year we really liked each other up until right before summer. We were goin to start dating that summer because school was so busy I didn't want a relationship at the time. So she ended up saying the LJBF gig right before summer. We hung out and went through a lot of drama because I ended up falling for her over the summer. At the beginning of this school year I decided to put some time in between our friendship because I had had enough. I havent felt anything in about six months. But, just recently I've been starting to get feelings toward her again. I have been doing my best to pursue other girls and I haven't really found a girl that can really fulfill what we had. She likes this other guy now, but whenever we hang out she seems to have the greatest time. She easily considers me to be one of her very best friends. So my question is...Should I give her somewhat of an ultimatum? Tell her that I don't think that we should hang out now if she really likes this guy? Since she is really close to me, I think this will be hard on her, but I think its an easy way for her to really put things into perspective. We are great friends, but I think that if we were to try again at a relationship that it would really last. I have a feeling that she would miss me a lot more than she would miss this other guy. Do you guys think that this would be a very wise decision?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Smart Decision?
- Thread starter DaneB
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