"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HollowHorizon

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Heres Somthing Short That Happend To me In A Convo

HollOW HoRiZon (4:11:30 PM): Being sad is not
HER :::::: why
HollOW HoRiZon (4:11:48 PM): Why not
HER :::::: Because
HollOW HoRiZon (4:12:47 PM): Mmmmm, Who dosent wanna be happy
HER :::::: Because
HollOW HoRiZon (4:13:03 PM): whats b/c
HollOW HoRiZon (4:13:05 PM): Because?
HER ::::::i want to be
HollOW HoRiZon (4:14:11 PM): You feeling ok? Umm wanting to be sad is not very Normal, U need help
HER :::::: NO ( She Smiles)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HollowHorizon

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Very Short Conversation But Maybe I Had A Hint Of A Smile Within Her? Maybe A Tit Bit Of Relif? Just a decimal dot of progress???? Somthing>?? What you think
 

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I think you may be seeing things that arent there dude, if you like this girl ask her out.
 

Flabbergasped?

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Haha wtf you said like 3 lines.

We can't really gauge anything considering half the conversation is nonsensical XD
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wtf?
 

88888888

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Flabbergasped? said:
Haha wtf you said like 3 lines.

We can't really gauge anything considering half the conversation is nonsensical XD

I guess I can't read because I got nothing out of that. Also I don't know your full confo but to me you come off as soft and needy which equals a great friend but nothing more.
 

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omigod, i didnt understand a word of that.
how are we suppose to translate it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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