"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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deeloo

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i have a small head and an above average length neck.. which appears to be really long since my head is small.. my body frame is pretty small but since i have a small head i dont look that scrawny.. but i look really small.. even though im 5"8 (im asian so that's an ok height) i look small next to ppl who r 5"6 (not height wise of course).. and when i stand alone ppl automatically think im short until they compare themselves with me.. my head and my body prolly goes in the ratio 1:10 or 1:11.. which is pretty bad.. ive started working out.. but im just wondering.. is there a way to make myself look better? r there specific muscle groups that can help it? and if i bulk up would it look even weirder cuz my head looks smaller compared to my body.. also i wear collared shirt a lot so my neck will look shorter.. but then is there some other way to make me look good? thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bishop04

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Pretty much, you're given what you're given. I'd be happy to trade some of my head size with you, as mine's a bit egg-shaped. Hasn't stopped me from getting anything I wanted, though.

As for what clothes to wear, I'd recommend you go to Abercrombie and get a few collared polo's - the new look that A&F is bringing back is popped collars - instead of folding them over, they stand straight up. The new polo's they're selling are stiff enough to allow this. This will make it look as though your neck isn't as long (it'll take a good 3 inches off). Hope this helps.
 

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Deeloo, your situation should be the complete opposite.


People with smaller heads-

-look taller
-look bigger


If you think about it, this makes sense. A smaller head would make the body look proportionally bigger.


On the contrary, think big head with huge afro. Does the body look big or small now?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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