"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Anyone ever go through a slump with girls?

Its like no matter how many girls you are talking to nothing goes right....

Well I tend to go through slumps and hot streaks....


How do you get out of a slump?

Anyone know what I'm talking about??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think "slumps" are a self limiting belief. And Illusion.
And honestly, to me, and this may hurt, if you're feeling a "slump" maybe you're not doing the interesting things that you like to in your life.
Do you understand this?

Fill your life with your passions.

You will never really have "slumps".

Try to keep in mind that the female kind are an addition to our life. Not the main attraction in it.
View it as something to compliment your life, not be the center and focus on it.
 
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when i used to be single and go thru a slump and wanted to change, i started with a shower, a hair cut and a shave.
then i would throw out all my underwear and go get new ones.

heck i was always more confident if i was wearing brand new underwear.

maybe it was just knowing that i had a secret and it was that no one ever saw those before, or who knows what, but it worked.
 
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slumps are part of the game. as mentioned earlier it happens... if it lasts any longer than 1-2 weeks smash one you already have. there is nothin like a retread to get you fired up again.

this just happened to me. 2 weeks no new p*ssy. started last weekend with a retread on thursday night, hit 2 ho's back to back on fri + sat night
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Amante Silvestre said:
Slumps are completely normal and happen to the best of us. For the most part, they come from the repitition of dealing with the same types of women over and over and over again, ending after ending relationship until you finally hit a point of "what's the point"? It's the point where you start to become "blah", and it effects your game.

I've found that the best way to get out of the slump is to start turning your attention towards high risk, unlikely situations just for sh-ts and giggles. Start going after women you normally would never expect to score with and expect absolutely nothing from it. Expect to fail and have fun with it.

You'll quickly find that even the slightest positive; a smile, a hello, a conversation with a woman you would have never expected to go far with can rejuvinate your pride and kick-sart your game all over again.
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Ey, si pos tiene razon!
 
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Amante Silvestre said:
Slumps are completely normal and happen to the best of us. For the most part, they come from the repitition of dealing with the same types of women over and over and over again, ending after ending relationship until you finally hit a point of "what's the point"? It's the point where you start to become "blah", and it effects your game.

I've found that the best way to get out of the slump is to start turning your attention towards high risk, unlikely situations just for sh-ts and giggles. Start going after women you normally would never expect to score with and expect absolutely nothing from it. Expect to fail and have fun with it.

You'll quickly find that even the slightest positive; a smile, a hello, a conversation with a woman you would have never expected to go far with can rejuvinate your pride and kick-sart your game all over again.
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Sounds like you really know what you're talking about here.... I guess the best thing to do is for me to kickstart my approach journal. Even that has been slumping as I haven't done an approach in so long...

I mean yesterday I started texting girls that used to like me just to see if my slump was real and it was. Their interest appeared to be low in me.

So its like when I'm slumping nothing goes right with any girl.

So yeah hitting on HB's that I normally wouldn't have might not be a bad idea.


Thanks everyone.
 
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Boston DJ said:
slumps are part of the game. as mentioned earlier it happens... if it lasts any longer than 1-2 weeks smash one you already have. there is nothin like a retread to get you fired up again.

this just happened to me. 2 weeks no new p*ssy. started last weekend with a retread on thursday night, hit 2 ho's back to back on fri + sat night
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What does smash one and retread mean? Maybe its boston slang sorry not familar. APpreciate the advice
 
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You know as I re-read this thread here's what seems certain:

1.) Slumps are normal everyones goes through them
2.) It has to do with your frame of mind which can be gotten by forgoing the same routine over and over

3.) To get through it, think confidently and change your routine a little...


Good summary?
 
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So maybe this isn't recommended but I recnetly called up a girl I used to date but in which I had low IL. I noticed she had some guys she was seeing so i figured I hvae nothing to lose.

Well we went out this weekend and I hooked up. Its helping my confidence.....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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