"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Slow Down!!!

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Next time you meet a woman or go on a date, I would like
you to try the following: slow down as much as possible.

When you talk, talk slow. When you move, move slow.

Why? Because slowing down will make you come off as a
much more confident and mysterious person. Dont believe me?
Heres your assignment for this week: rent any old James Bond
movie. Really observe the way Bond moves. See if hes ever in
a rush when there arent any bombs exploding around him.

Remember, a man who is in control has no reason to be
in a hurry. They are always relaxed because they just KNOW they
are in charge of the situation. Every movement a confident man
makes is slow and almost "calculated". Just like James Bond,
he just knows when to pick up his cup and when to raise an
eyebrow. Women know this, and thats why they go for the
"strong, silent type."

Want proof? Okay, heres a more "recent" example.
Remember Joe Millionaire on TV? Not the smartest guy, is he?
But women find him dead sexy. Hes not exactly what I would
call the most articulate person in the world, but all the ladies
(including my mother) dig him because of his body language. If
you observe the way Evan moves on TV, you will find that hes
just about the slowest guy on earth.

Want more examples? Okay. Just watch any episode of
"Blind Date" or the "5th Wheel". The strong, silent and slow
type ALWAYS win and get picked at the end. As for the
hyperactive goofballs, they almost never get the girls.
Now, who would YOU rather be? The stud or the goofball?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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becker

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Good post, this boils down to having self control in the situation. You need to be able to avoid feeling uneasy in awkward situations (uncomfortable silences, debating conversations, etc.) That's the key.
 

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damn it damn it damn it.... i think im finally ready to call the copyright ppl...stop being ignorant and stupid and posting other ppls work you rotten useless plagerizer.....
 

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As much as we like to quote James Bond as a role model here, we must keep in mind that he's a fictional character, just like the DJ. You have to keep in mind that many things are not in your control, but one thing you can control is your rational thought and behavior. Joe Millionaire example is not that good, I think the women were dripping their vaginaz over the thought that he's a millionaire rather than elite nobleman. You can organize the same show "Marry me i'm rich" with the most AFC guy with the same results. Money matters, attitude matters, looks matter, all to a degree with different weights, but if you're the whole package then even better for you!
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
damn it damn it damn it.... i think im finally ready to call the copyright ppl...stop being ignorant and stupid and posting other ppls work you rotten useless plagerizer.....
Yeah...I KNOW I've seen that James Bond thing before.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I agree with Becker, this is a good post, no matter how many times repeated, it's an essential concept to master.
Regarding liljp188 's comments about money, sure it helps, but I don't think it's that important to most women. If that were the case, I should be alot more popular than I am.
(Although I'm not complaining...:D)
 

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Hey we're not taking credits! it doesnt matter who posted what. This is probably number 1 or 2 in my list of all time best advice.
 

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yes, its good that you remind us of this point
 

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i think is pathetic that he just came to this site, and is offering advice that he probably hasnt done himself, and not saying "this is from David DeAngelo...

this sure is great advice, is professional advice and david makes his living out of this, but i would consider taking that advice myself into my life and once ive done it then i can post it and say who is from...i might just be overreacting but i hate plagerizers...
 
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