"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sloppy Seconds

NewAndImproved

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Last week me and my friend went a party. He started talking w/a girl who apparently he met a week earlier. I stayed on the sidelines but after a friend of mine came by and loudly shot the **** w/me, she started giving me IOIs. "I like your shirt" "You've seen you around...you're a rather attractive young man." However, at the time, I was still trippin over my one-its. In addition, I didn't know what my friend's plans were w/this girl. So basically I didn't make a move. He got a number at the end of the night. Whatever. When my friend brought her up, looking for approval, I mentioned her behavior towards me. Interestingly enough, he asked why I didn't act.

Then comes tonite. He finds her first, dances w/her and slowly leaves the party w/her. I leave w/my other friend and see them ahead. He turns around and starts talking w/me. Get this, he wants to play video games w/me and bring her along. Even stranger, she seems into it! He's an extremely outgoing and fun guy so that's why he pulls but I often question his ability to close. He isn't focused. At the time, despite my mixed feelings, I tried to help him. "Let's do it another time dude." He insisted and next thing I know we're outside my room. Fortunately for him, my controllers were locked in my suitemate's room so they had to bounce. The girl took a peek in my room, said it was nice. I put in a little C&F and then she bounced.

Strange encounter. But after he presumably hooks up w/her, could I get in as well? I'm not really talking about ethics...my friend is easygoing. But will she be cool w/it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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She'd probably be down, who are we to say? You said she seemed interested. If it doesn't bother you, then go for it. Did he even do anything with her?
 
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