"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So I let myself slip and let the woman gain control. She's playing Miss Independent like she doesn't need me or anything and I finally started letting it hit my nerves. So I try to put two days a week away to see her and now shes playing games with that. Need some role reversal tips on this. I'm usually the one who cares less, so this one is new to me. Ain't nobody got time to be stressin.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No contact. But don't let her think that you're playing games. Actually DO something to make yourself busy.
 

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Like the trip im currently taking out of town until later tonight? Wink wink. Ok maybe my game isnt off. Just slipped a little. Really like the chick just dont want to not be in control.
 

SgtSplacker

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Dude you have to start shifting your interests away from her. Start going out by yourself or with friends. Try online dating to get a couple dates going.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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speed dawg said:
No contact. But don't let her think that you're playing games. Actually DO something to make yourself busy.
+1. This is the only solution.
 

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NEPA said:
So I let myself slip and let the woman gain control. She's playing Miss Independent like she doesn't need me or anything and I finally started letting it hit my nerves. So I try to put two days a week away to see her and now shes playing games with that. Need some role reversal tips on this. I'm usually the one who cares less, so this one is new to me. Ain't nobody got time to be stressin.
Nepa,

What makes you think that she's ONLY "playing"? What if you discover that she IS independent and doesn't need you?

Do you think that will make you want her MORE or LESS?
 
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