"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Slipped into betatude... quick refresher?

mikeraw

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I've had a serious girlfriend for the past 3 years butI play around on the side whenever possible and especially with chicks I meet through online dating sites. However, most of these girls are usually targets of opportunity or a my age or slightly older... Last night, I got the number of this scorching hot waitress and I recognize that my game is very rusty.

QUESTION:

I need a crash course refresher on game. What are the top 3 sources you guys can recommend while I set up a date with this hottie? Everything from conversations to what to do with someone with no faky.


I remember the basics of activity dates, changing locations for that time distortion effect, etc... But I feel like a need more work.

Oh, and the reason I'm sweating this one so much is because she's 20 and I'm 31, so I NEED to bring my A game to get somewhere. It's not often that I have a chance with a 20 year old.

Thanks in advance for your input!

Mike
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OnTheWayUp

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Don't put her on a pedestal just because she is young and hot. Remember she's a human being with flaws like everybody else, and try and get her to qualify herself to you beyond her looks. If you do that you'll set yourself apart from the majority of guys, who just fawn over the first hottie who "gives them a chance."

For game, I would try:

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/ for theory and psychology

http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/ for practical (especially relationship) advice

Athol Kay's "Married Man Sex Life" blog (my work blocks the URL, google it) for advice specifically tailored to LTRs and marriages.

http://boldanddetermined.com/ for inner game

http://www.rooshvforum.com/ and SS (especially the archives here) for troubleshooting

The Sex God Method (find it as an ebook online) for everything physical

Best of luck.
 

Zarky

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I would watch some films where there is an Alpha character. Often I find that my demeanor changes (at least for a time) when I watch somebody being the person I want to be.
 
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