Slept with girl..interest seems to be doing down but...

[meech]

Banged this chick out of the blue a few weeks ago....we have mutual friends and I had seen her here and there over the last couple years but this was the first time anything happened

Go on an actual date where we went for dinner and drinks.....it was then I realized personality wise, she wasn't someone i would never wife up...too artsy and weird lol

Anyway I hear through the grapevine she thinks im too much of a meat head to date but thinks im attractive and is down to fool around. I think well thats perfect just what I was going for

Heres the thing: shes flakey as ****. she doesnt initiate conversations ever (though she does always reply with lengthy messages). classic BS of always being "busy" so i figure ok whatever shes not that into me.

but then i see her at a couple parties and we always end up making out which I take as an indicator of interest...i mean most chicks wont let you touch up on them and kiss on them if they arent interested atleast on a physical level in my experiences

The general premise that seems to followed is "dont listen to what she says but what she does" which is what I have always applied to chicks....but what about when shes cold and distant when you arent around but kissing up and wants to bang when you ARE around

how do you handle this? if you next out of pride because of her flakiness you're missing out on hooking up when you do see her in person

if you hit her up too much without her initiating she'll def lose attraction

would like to hear everyones input on situations like this

 

[meech]

What does pride have to do with this one? You both know you don't want anything long term. Fvk her like the FB she wants to be.

Just make absolutely certain you don't get that girl pregnant. It will be a complete and utter disaster.

Because she doesnt initiate and shes hard as fuk to get an appearance out of her

Im swallowing my pride because im the only one trying to meet up and actually seeing her has a low success rate....i can tell shes jaded and puts up a huge shield and makes extra effort to look "cool" and non needy...shes like 21 so i guess that bs is normal among little girls

whats keeping me on ice is her responsiveness when I do see her and the fact that shes smoking hot

 

[pyros]

it happens. She's not into your personality, but likes your appearance, or...she's way more interested in another dude and just wants to hang out with you when the other dude is not available.

I would hit her up just once a week or even less.
Dont expect her to initiate texts or anything, neither expect her to change the way she's been behaving.

Try to find new girls in the meantime.

 

[meech]

it happens. She's not into your personality, but likes your appearance, or...she's way more interested in another dude and just wants to hang out with you when the other dude is not available.

I would hit her up just once a week or even less.
Dont expect her to initiate texts or anything, neither expect her to change the way she's been behaving.

Try to find new girls in the meantime.

Makes sense

I mean I guess i dont have much to lose....i already hit it, im not spending any money or real time on her....can really only get better

its just weird cause girls who are into fooling around/get physical with you WILL be receptive to some degree

in my experience, girls who arent receptive to you contacting them and make you do all the work usually give you the cheek when you go for a kiss, try to get away from your phsyical advances but i was slapping her ass and playing around with her no problems

first time dealing with something like this but i guess we never stop learning when it comes to dealing with the ladies..

your explanations make perfect sense. thanks

 

[pyros]

Makes sense

I mean I guess i dont have much to lose....i already hit it, im not spending any money or real time on her....can really only get better

its just weird cause girls who are into fooling around/get physical with you WILL be receptive to some degree

in my experience, girls who arent receptive to you contacting them and make you do all the work usually give you the cheek when you go for a kiss, try to get away from your phsyical advances but i was slapping her ass and playing around with her no problems

first time dealing with something like this but i guess we never stop learning when it comes to dealing with the ladies..

your explanations make perfect sense. thanks

yes. I used to think like you, until I bumped into two girls that behaved like the one you described.

The way you think (or you used to think) is ok for the majority of girls (90%), but there are just a few that are fu-ck-ed up in the head and behave in this weird, ilogical, unnatural way.

Difficult to believe but true. Anyway these girls are the exceptions to the rule.

 

[meech]

yes. I used to think like you, until I bumped into two girls that behaved like the one you described.

The way you think (or you used to think) is ok for the majority of girls (90%), but there are just a few that are fu-ck-ed up in the head and behave in this weird, ilogical, unnatural way.

Difficult to believe but true. Anyway these girls are the exceptions to the rule.

her entire social circle is made up more or less of hipster gay dudes....like legitimate homosexuals

her roommate is actually a tiny super feminine gay dude....a lot of gay dudes ive known have had extremely good at understanding both male and female mindsets sexually so he may be giving her some insight thats affecting my behavior

she seems to dismiss me as a "bro" because im a black dude who likes weight lifting, cars and whiskey....im thinking she wants to treat me like a fuk toy but not "cool" enough to hang out with her pseudo intellectual friends.....so be it