aceofspades1
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Ok so me and my girl have been together for a little over a year. I'm 26 and she's 25. The first 6 months or so were great, then she started to get really insecure and needy.
She would always question my every move. She would accuse me of cheating all the time, and ruin a lot of good nights with her insecurity.
It got to the point where if we walked into a store or anywhere that might possibly have women, I would know that she would get pissed off for whatever reason. Other than this behavior she is perfect, and I really do love her very much.
I never cheated on her(until now, more on that below), and always treated her well and took her crap.
It's not my fault that her ex boyfriends screwed around on her and that now she's insecure, I shouldn't have to pay for that.
I told her that I may as well be cheating on her since I'm accused of it every day.
So anyways, after a really bad couple of nights, where she was accusing me of stuff non stop, embarassing me in public places by throwing fits of anger over things I didn't even do ("why are you looking at that girl?!"), I told her I needed some time.
I've told her off before for this behaviour...she apologizes profusely, then all is well until a couple weeks later when she goes right back to the same behavior.
So when I told her this time I wanted to break up she did the same apologizing thing, and said she would give me time. I told her that basically I am breaking up with her, but she seemed to ignore what I was saying and just kept saying "Call me when you're ready". I again told her, "no I don't want to be with you anymore."
So anyways, the next night I ended up sleeping with another girl.
Now I feel pretty ****ty because I wish I hadn't done that, even though I guess technically I was single at the time...
Part of me wants my gf to come around and realize she has to stop this behavior, and to really make a permanent change to her behavior. I do think that we're very compatible personality wise, and I could see myself with her forever if she can just stop this behavior.
But now I feel this guilt about what I did and I'm not sure what to do or how to feel really....should I call her up in a week and try to work things out, just dump her....tell her and then let her decide?
She would always question my every move. She would accuse me of cheating all the time, and ruin a lot of good nights with her insecurity.
It got to the point where if we walked into a store or anywhere that might possibly have women, I would know that she would get pissed off for whatever reason. Other than this behavior she is perfect, and I really do love her very much.
I never cheated on her(until now, more on that below), and always treated her well and took her crap.
It's not my fault that her ex boyfriends screwed around on her and that now she's insecure, I shouldn't have to pay for that.
I told her that I may as well be cheating on her since I'm accused of it every day.
So anyways, after a really bad couple of nights, where she was accusing me of stuff non stop, embarassing me in public places by throwing fits of anger over things I didn't even do ("why are you looking at that girl?!"), I told her I needed some time.
I've told her off before for this behaviour...she apologizes profusely, then all is well until a couple weeks later when she goes right back to the same behavior.
So when I told her this time I wanted to break up she did the same apologizing thing, and said she would give me time. I told her that basically I am breaking up with her, but she seemed to ignore what I was saying and just kept saying "Call me when you're ready". I again told her, "no I don't want to be with you anymore."
So anyways, the next night I ended up sleeping with another girl.
Now I feel pretty ****ty because I wish I hadn't done that, even though I guess technically I was single at the time...
Part of me wants my gf to come around and realize she has to stop this behavior, and to really make a permanent change to her behavior. I do think that we're very compatible personality wise, and I could see myself with her forever if she can just stop this behavior.
But now I feel this guilt about what I did and I'm not sure what to do or how to feel really....should I call her up in a week and try to work things out, just dump her....tell her and then let her decide?
