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I'm not sure what the deal is. I've been hooking up with girls from Tinder, left and right. Some of these girls are pretty hot. Nice racks, great ass, etc. But after we have sex, I don't feel good about myself, and want them to just leave my apartment. I don't know anything about these girls, they know nothing about me. It feels good at the time, but I regret it immediately every encounter. I've let two of them stay overnight, and I could barely sleep. This is a cycle for me, and it repeats every week starting on Friday night.

Any thoughts on what's happening?
 

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I can't speak for you, but I had a similar experience. Maybe you can relate to some degree.

When I turned 20, I moved to a somewhat more 'metropolitan' type city. It seemed like overnight, I was scoring like I'd never imagined. The first few felt like great victories, but after that, it seemed like watching a repeat of a TV show.
I continued to take women home (or go to their place) because I was glad that I had the opportunities (options were limited before my move) . However, once the wad was shot, reality set in. And I'd either try to find some excuse why she and I couldn't spend the night together or I'd just go through the motions of pretending to enjoy their company (after the deed was done) .

I can't speak for you, but in my case, I had something to prove to myself. Eventually, I reached a point when I discovered that I felt "less alone" when by myself, rather than having random female company to fulfill my ego.
 

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I'm not sure what the deal is. I've been hooking up with girls from Tinder, left and right. Some of these girls are pretty hot. Nice racks, great ass, etc. But after we have sex, I don't feel good about myself, and want them to just leave my apartment. I don't know anything about these girls, they know nothing about me. It feels good at the time, but I regret it immediately every encounter. I've let two of them stay overnight, and I could barely sleep. This is a cycle for me, and it repeats every week starting on Friday night.

Any thoughts on what's happening?
Do you have the same problem jerking off to porn?
 

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I'm not sure what the deal is. I've been hooking up with girls from Tinder, left and right. Some of these girls are pretty hot. Nice racks, great ass, etc. But after we have sex, I don't feel good about myself, and want them to just leave my apartment. I don't know anything about these girls, they know nothing about me. It feels good at the time, but I regret it immediately every encounter. I've let two of them stay overnight, and I could barely sleep. This is a cycle for me, and it repeats every week starting on Friday night.

Any thoughts on what's happening?
Maybe you should try men if big tit, hot women aren't doing it for you lol.

Seriously......I'm the same way in terms of losing interest. If a chick gives it up right off the bat, I know I'm done with her. I'd rather her make me work for it a little bit.

It sounds like you're more looking for compatibility rather than sex. My advice would be to STOP fvcking them right away. See if there is a vibe first. You'll probably have to go meet women in real life to achieve what you're looking for as Tinder is only going to land the community pump and dumps.

Pvssy is like money in the bank. Once you pull out, the interest is all gone.........
 

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I'm not sure what the deal is. I've been hooking up with girls from Tinder, left and right. Some of these girls are pretty hot. Nice racks, great ass, etc. But after we have sex, I don't feel good about myself, and want them to just leave my apartment. I don't know anything about these girls, they know nothing about me. It feels good at the time, but I regret it immediately every encounter. I've let two of them stay overnight, and I could barely sleep. This is a cycle for me, and it repeats every week starting on Friday night.

Any thoughts on what's happening?
You don't feel good sleeping with smoking hot chicks? What are you an idiot?

It's called a dopamine rush. It's just like eating junk food or gambling or watching adult entertainment. It's awesome at the moment, feeling sucks afterward. if you are actually sleeping with hot girls, it doesn't make sense. If you want a *connection* with them, that's up to THEM. The girls are responsible for pursuing ANY type of relationship. If hot girls don't care, you shouldn't care.

Your job is to be great for people. Not to connect with some hot chick who has done 10 guys 15 different ways from Sunday,
 

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Are you busting all sorts of nuts dude? lots of creampies, facials, handjobs. blow work, footjobs, titty bangs, ass banging.

i busted a nut with a girl that gave me a handjob and damn it was good. i don't care about her ass and tits really.

all about busting nuts dude. Focus on the nut busting.
 
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A similar thing happened to me in 2017, I got laid far more that year than any other, and by the end of it I actually ended up feeling quite jaded and far more red-pilled than before.

I later came to the conclusion that once you have sex with a girl, in that state of post-orgasm clarity, you're forced to see the girl for who she really is. And if you had no chemistry or connection with her, you'll quickly realize that most women have literally nothing to offer besides sex. And that's a depressing realization.

Despite this reality, many guys fall for this trap, this dopamine rush that comes from the thrill of the chase. They don't care if the girl is a brain dead thot with nothing interesting to say about anything, they just want to f***. But once you reach that point of conquest, 9/10 times you'll realize it was a pretty shallow and meaningless experience.

It's probably fine to have this sort of sex once in a while just to keep your mojo so to speak, but I think it's ultimately pointless to f*** a girl unless you have a real connection with her. I have also found the sex to be several magnitudes more enjoyable when you actually like being with the girl.
 
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A similar thing happened to me in 2017, I got laid far more that year than any other, and by the end of it I actually ended up feeling quite jaded and far more red-pilled than before.

I later came to the conclusion that once you have sex with a girl, in that state of post-orgasm clarity, you're forced to see the girl for who she really is. And if you had no chemistry or connection with her, you'll quickly realize that most women have literally nothing to offer besides sex. And that's a depressing realization.

Despite this reality, many guys fall for this trap, this dopamine rush that comes from the thrill of the chase. They don't care if the girl is a brain dead thot with nothing interesting to say about anything, they just want to f***. But once you reach that point of conquest, 9/10 times you'll realize it was a pretty shallow and meaningless experience.

It's probably fine to have this sort of sex once in a while just to keep your mojo so to speak, but I think it's ultimately pointless to f*** a girl unless you have a real connection with her. I have also found the sex to be several magnitudes more enjoyable when you actually like being with the girl.
all can be avoided if you just get handjobs or titty bangs. Makeouts are fine too.
fun fun fun remember none of this serious shiit that goes serious once you bang them. Movies have scenes like this when it goes a bit awkward after sex between the couple. the guy just wants to get the fuk away from them. I've had it too but just keep things fun and light.
 

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I am questioning myself the same thing as the op :)

what I am realizing is that most women do not have anything more to give than her body . No matter how good the body is if there is no connection you get bored of it .

this is why I can not understand this “real” pua forums , where the only thing that matters is the ***** :)
 

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I've been feeling the same thing lately.
Moved to a new apartment alone, started going out with multiple girls every week and having sex on second dates pretty much every time. There is this rush you're feeling, something tickleing your ego, but once you start thinking about it, you know it's not right.
I mean I know what I'm looking for in a woman and sometimes I still have sex with them despite the fact that they are shallow or we don't have similar values blablabla. And it feels like sh1t afterwards.
I've reached this point where I don't want to have sex on the first few dates if I sense that she's a quality girl. And if she's not, I kinda throw her back into the lake like you'd do when fishing.

It's a good moment of clarity but it's sad when it gets to this. Two nights ago I had a nice girl over and while talking, she asked me what do I think about condoms. I said I have some, but don't really enjoy using them. And I didn't push for sex even if I probably could. Weird that you asked this since I was thinking about the same thing lately.

So OP ask me again about this in a week or two. Sure hope I'll manage to stick to the plan and not blow a load all over her until then lol.
 

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Perhaps you should know the girls a bit more, maybe there’ll be something more than a physical or sexual attraction.
 

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I've been feeling the same thing lately.
Moved to a new apartment alone, started going out with multiple girls every week and having sex on second dates pretty much every time. There is this rush you're feeling, something tickleing your ego, but once you start thinking about it, you know it's not right.
I mean I know what I'm looking for in a woman and sometimes I still have sex with them despite the fact that they are shallow or we don't have similar values blablabla. And it feels like sh1t afterwards.
I've reached this point where I don't want to have sex on the first few dates if I sense that she's a quality girl. And if she's not, I kinda throw her back into the lake like you'd do when fishing.

It's a good moment of clarity but it's sad when it gets to this. Two nights ago I had a nice girl over and while talking, she asked me what do I think about condoms. I said I have some, but don't really enjoy using them. And I didn't push for sex even if I probably could. Weird that you asked this since I was thinking about the same thing lately.

So OP ask me again about this in a week or two. Sure hope I'll manage to stick to the plan and not blow a load all over her until then lol.
well liking a girl and not escalating to sex quickly can and will backfire :)

I do not think that by not having sex you fix this
 

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I don't mean this as an insult, but the women you are most likely actually meeting off of tinder are not really hot, you just find them so in the moment because you are horny. I have a friend who trolls on tinder constantly and hooks up with all sorts of women, he talks about them being hot and such. I've met a few of them and they were pretty average. Women have a knack for making themselves look like 8s on social media when in reality they are like a 5. Hot women don't need tinder to get sex, women that are normal don't need it for dates, etc.

With all that said, here is my input on this. Women that give it away so freely are expressing that they have some undesirable characteristics. Men deep down lose respect for women that would be considered *****s. Men have sex with *****s when they are horny, but they don't date them, have them stay over, hang out with them, etc.

You get sexual impulses, which are normal, you meet up with a ***** and have a very pleasurable in the moment experience. After the climax though you are left with someone who only is there because of this sexual impulse and now that has been taken care of you just want to move on with your life. These women are of 0 substance and you don't see any value in them beyond just sex, again this is normal.
 

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well liking a girl and not escalating to sex quickly can and will backfire :)

I do not think that by not having sex you fix this
I'm sure it can backfire.
Communication works well so I hope not.
But I need to do a blood test next week anyway so sex is not an option for at least a week.
If she dumps me for not banging her too fast, that'll be a first. But I'm willing to take that chance in the mindset I'm in, so if she does, lesson learned and I guess I lost nothing more than some other sex session. Doubt it would be the case tho.
 

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I don't mean this as an insult, but the women you are most likely actually meeting off of tinder are not really hot, you just find them so in the moment because you are horny. I have a friend who trolls on tinder constantly and hooks up with all sorts of women, he talks about them being hot and such. I've met a few of them and they were pretty average. Women have a knack for making themselves look like 8s on social media when in reality they are like a 5. Hot women don't need tinder to get sex, women that are normal don't need it for dates, etc.

With all that said, here is my input on this. Women that give it away so freely are expressing that they have some undesirable characteristics. Men deep down lose respect for women that would be considered *****s. Men have sex with *****s when they are horny, but they don't date them, have them stay over, hang out with them, etc.

You get sexual impulses, which are normal, you meet up with a ***** and have a very pleasurable in the moment experience. After the climax though you are left with someone who only is there because of this sexual impulse and now that has been taken care of you just want to move on with your life. These women are of 0 substance and you don't see any value in them beyond just sex, again this is normal.
fair point about tinder :)

the problem with tinder and places like that is that they do not have the quality women there , so for sure something is missing from them to make them really desirable by men .
 

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well liking a girl and not escalating to sex quickly can and will backfire :)

I do not think that by not having sex you fix this
Thanks for the input anyway, I wasn't actually considering this
 

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Thanks for the input anyway, I wasn't actually considering this
it kinda happens to me :)

if she gives you the green light , like in your case when she asked about condoms , and you do not do anything about it , she will auto reject . This means that she will become cold towards you thinking that you do not like her enough or things along this line , because if you really did you would have done something about it

if you escalate and not finish the job ( like getting her naked , fingering her rtc ) , she will start backwards rationalizing that maybe she did not like you enough and this is why things did not happen

the 2nd happens to me all the time almost
 

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it kinda happens to me :)

if she gives you the green light , like in your case when she asked about condoms , and you do not do anything about it , she will auto reject . This means that she will become cold towards you thinking that you do not like her enough or things along this line , because if you really did you would have done something about it

if you escalate and not finish the job ( like getting her naked , fingering her rtc ) , she will start backwards rationalizing that maybe she did not like you enough and this is why things did not happen

the 2nd happens to me all the time almost
Uhh doesn't sound good at all...
I tried not to escalate because I knew I'd want to finish the job eventually. So I went with her to play some table tennis and pool next date.
Why are you not finishing the job tho?
 
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