"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sleeping Trouble

Cloud-uk

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My sleeping has been arsed up recently. I lie in bed but I just can't see to drop off to sleep. I just get generally restless or my mind won't give it a rest!

It's not at a life-inhibiting stage yet, but does anyone have any reccomendations to get a really good night's sleep?- especially now it's hot.

Cheers.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OK, from one vampire to another, here is it, the one and only tip that will work for you. Get up at 6 am everyday and work out. Don't care if you don't have to be anywhere until noon. Just force yourself to get up. That way, you will be tired come midnight.

If I allowed myself, I wouldn't sleep until 6 am :) Of course, since I have to get up then...
 

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Before bed, try reading for a good 20 mins or so. I do this, and about 30 secs to a minute after I turn the light off, I'm asleep. Also, have a cool down period before bed. Light and noise stimuli are a no-no (i.e. games, tv, whatever). Meditation also works too.
 

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I have the same problem. some nights Ill fall right off to sleep, others I will sit there for hours and hours and hours.

A couple of helpful hints
1) dont drink caffine within 2 hours of your bedtime
2)dont sleep in a hot room. I turn on the air conditioner and use covers for warmth
3)find something to think about that doesent have to do with your real llife to fall asleep. I pretend im taking over the world with my magic sword every night and basically kill everyone in my path. Its lame but i find my self drift off to sleep when im playing this out in my head.
 
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Originally posted by Cloud-uk
My sleeping has been arsed up recently. I lie in bed but I just can't see to drop off to sleep. I just get generally restless or my mind won't give it a rest!

It's not at a life-inhibiting stage yet, but does anyone have any reccomendations to get a really good night's sleep?- especially now it's hot.

Cheers.
If it's hot I have a swim right before I go to sleep. I sit in the pool for a few minutes to cool down. Also maybe you're going to sleep too early? Or getting up to late? Excercise is good in the evenings, weights don't really make me sleepy but I find a good cardio workout does the trick.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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