"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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milkncereal2

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hey, im new to this forum but it offers some real good insight. the other night i ran into a girl that i had gone on a couple movie dates about 6 months ago. then i was completely different looking, a rookie in the dating game. now im pretty confident with ladies and all. we decide to rent a movie and come over to my house. we watch the movie and lay together pretty provactive. i gave her a back massage, while teasing her in certain spots, and kissed her. she was very receptive for the most part. i tried making the move to taking her clothes off and she stopped me and i went back to just massaging her. she spent the night at my house through we did nothing more than innocent touching. im confused why i didnt get anything. were both young as im 18 and shes 17 and i think shes a virgin, so that might have a little bit to do with it. Is she very interested? why would one sleep over at a guys house but do nothing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She could of just been testing the waters...Not to just see what you are gonna do, but to see if shes totally comfortable with you...

You said shes still a virgin...she could be trying to feel you out (not literally) to see if you're the one...Or it could be as simple as her just wanting to just sleep over...Its kind of a tough call being we dont know your entire history with this girl....

You guys are young, and like I said she could just be testing the waters...In all honesty, you dont find many girls that are still virgins at this girls age, so it if quite possible that shes trying to find everything out (feelings and so on) before she makes a jump like that....and if this is true that that is her plan, she could be a keeper...

Note: Be very careful though, once girls have sex, its very possible that they will go nuts for it and get with anyone that will give it to her....Hate to be so blunt, but when you get older and meet other girls and hear their stories, you'll find out just how true it is....I could name about 5 off the top of my head that waited for sex, then once they got it, you couldnt stop them from it, and they didnt care if they cheated on their boyfriends for one night stands or not...they just wanted it from whoever..
 
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Lostbutfound, good insight!
 

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Agreed and another thing...
Why on earth are you trying to remove the clothes before you are doing heavy makeouts and stimulating stuff like ears, neck and stuff like that... You should get her superhorny before doing that.
 

LuvMyArmyMan

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Originally posted by LostbutFound
She could of just been testing the waters...Not to just see what you are gonna do, but to see if shes totally comfortable with you...
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Note: Be very careful though, once girls have sex, its very possible that they will go nuts for it and get with anyone that will give it to her....Hate to be so blunt, but when you get older and meet other girls and hear their stories, you'll find out just how true it is....I could name about 5 off the top of my head that waited for sex, then once they got it, you couldnt stop them from it, and they didnt care if they cheated on their boyfriends for one night stands or not...they just wanted it from whoever..
haha same thing happened to me! After the guy i lost it to cheated on me, i slept with his best friend a few times to get back at him. I wasnt hesitant at all in making that decision. i also had a couple one-night stands when i got to college.....yeah alcohol had to do with it. But its all good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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