Sort of a rant here...
Every now and then, I still find myself surprised at how much Western men are pvssified in relationships.
An acquaintance is getting a divorce. His wife of 7 years said she doesn't love him anymore and doesn't want to work on the relationship. Just for kicks, she did it on Fathers' Day. They have 2 little kids. A week later, she said she fvcked some guy, probably has been for a while, but of course she wouldn't admit to it. He tried begging her to take him back, but she refused. You know, standard stuff.
He's now telling us he's going to move out of the house when he's not so broke. Maybe back to his mum's place, which is hours away, and he can't bear being so far away from his kids.
I asked: why the fvck are you moving out? She cheated on you, she wants a divorce, let HER move out. His response: you don't understand relationship with women, do you? That's how it is.
No it isn't!!! That's how a completely pvssified male deals with women.
I was born into a different culture (Asian) and in a different country. The norm there is: when husband and wife have a fight, if it's not too serious, the wife gets kicked out of bed and goes sleep on a couch. If it's serious, she gets sent packing back to her mum's place, until it's resolved. She's not allowed to divorce her husband willy nilly, and if she does, likely the kids will stay with the husband and his family.
I can understand that with the custody and no fault divorce parts, it is the law in the West that men can't do much about right now. However, they can always not automatically go sleep on the couch like a scolded puppy or move out of their own fvcking house even when they're not in the wrong.
When did sleeping on the couch and moving out of the house become the automatic male response in the West? Geezus!!!
Every now and then, I still find myself surprised at how much Western men are pvssified in relationships.
An acquaintance is getting a divorce. His wife of 7 years said she doesn't love him anymore and doesn't want to work on the relationship. Just for kicks, she did it on Fathers' Day. They have 2 little kids. A week later, she said she fvcked some guy, probably has been for a while, but of course she wouldn't admit to it. He tried begging her to take him back, but she refused. You know, standard stuff.
He's now telling us he's going to move out of the house when he's not so broke. Maybe back to his mum's place, which is hours away, and he can't bear being so far away from his kids.
I asked: why the fvck are you moving out? She cheated on you, she wants a divorce, let HER move out. His response: you don't understand relationship with women, do you? That's how it is.
No it isn't!!! That's how a completely pvssified male deals with women.
I was born into a different culture (Asian) and in a different country. The norm there is: when husband and wife have a fight, if it's not too serious, the wife gets kicked out of bed and goes sleep on a couch. If it's serious, she gets sent packing back to her mum's place, until it's resolved. She's not allowed to divorce her husband willy nilly, and if she does, likely the kids will stay with the husband and his family.
I can understand that with the custody and no fault divorce parts, it is the law in the West that men can't do much about right now. However, they can always not automatically go sleep on the couch like a scolded puppy or move out of their own fvcking house even when they're not in the wrong.
When did sleeping on the couch and moving out of the house become the automatic male response in the West? Geezus!!!
