Sleeping, I need a slap

[Bobby.net]

Basically, I need a mentor.

First off, I'm sure I would be a good coach but the point is I feel extremely lazy when I try to help myself. Can someone hit me with his baseball bat to wake me up from this terrible nightmare of boredom of being single?

The way I'm expecting this thread to go? Show your interest by saying why you would do a good coach and we'll then talk about my case in pm to facilitate communication. I've post this in High School forum because I'm a student (although it's summer vacation now) and that will obviously influence the plan of action.

Thanks for your interest because there is someone who highly needs help here. :cheer: lol

 

[john paul]

Whats the hourly pay for this job?

Most successful djs on this site who accually know what they are talking about arnt going to take time out of their lives to "mentor" you over the internet.

All the information you need is on this site. Go read it and apply it if you want to change your life.

You dont need help every step of the way.

 

[Bobby.net]

Umh... that sounds more like an ad for a job...right, but at first I was expecting only very little back up.

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EDIT: Erased, but as I was writing a ton of bulshiat of whys I was not doing well, it seems like it triggered the right state of mind I need to have to be successful. I'm sure it'll go away, though. I would need some tip on how to keep that state of mind everyday, beginner step. Would writing a report be a good idea?

 

[Bobby.net]

I'm coming with two questions for you:

When speaking to a woman, is a change of attention going to neutral to disinterest a sign to move on to the next or to work harder to show your value and to regain her interest?

Do you stay friendly to girls you are not attracted to only to get to know their friends or do you spend your time only on strangers when you are looking for attractive girls?

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Can someone hit me with his baseball bat to wake me up from this terrible nightmare of boredom of being single?

If you think that getting a girlfriend would solve your problems , you're wrong .

Firstly , you gotta be happy with yourself , have a good time . Thats the life girls want .

 

[Bobby.net]

And if I'm happy and feel like the happiest guy in the world, the girls still won't be calling me for a date because it's the man who has to call. I want to make a man of myself.

 

[theunflushables]

First off, if you truly want to improve yourself, and aren't looking for a quick lay, then forget about women. You can't focus on yourself when you have poon on the brain.

When you get to the point that you're happy, it won't matter to you if you're pulling girls left or right, or if you're just pulling.

So, the question is are you ready to change your life, or are you like a smoker who wants to quit but isnt ready to deal with the change?

 

[Bobby.net]

I think I don't understand your question because it doesn't give me a clue what to do next.
Thanks for your interest, anyway...

 

[theunflushables]

The question is do you want to be happy and improve on yourself regardless if you're getting tail or not, or are you just looking to not be lonely?

 

[Bobby.net]

I guess that my answer would be both...

However, since I know you're expecting me to pick only one of your options, I will opt for the first one; I want to be happy and improve on myself regardless if I'm getting tail or not.

 

[theunflushables]

Then first off, stop worrying about getting a piece for now. It will come when you're ready.

Take up some hobbies that will challenge you physically and mentally. Go to the gym learn a foreign language, read the great novels. Go hiking. Basically keep yourself busy. That will kill the boredom.

If you have a certain religious belief look into that for spirtual strength. Go to church/temple/mosque/stuppa etc. Learn how to improve your spiritual self if you're into that kind of thing.

When you're no longer searching happiness or companionship it will come to you. Its ironic, but the desperateness will disappear and that will affect you in a big way.

 

[Bobby.net]

It's not worries, I'm feeling like I'm missing something.

Sure, keeping myself busy is what I'm already doing, but I'm still missing a social life. Dating would fix this, or having close friends would too, but I'm not looking for anything superficial. For exemple, I generally get bored when hanging in groups of people.

 

[theunflushables]

Like missing some inner part of you that would make life enjoyable or more like missing out on something like all the events the "cool" people are at.

Why do you get bored when you are with groups of people? Are you engaging in conversation or are you sitting there listening? Are you talking to one person, two people at a time, a whole group? Do their interests seem different than yours? What exactly bored when hanging out with a group?

 

[Bobby.net]

It's definitely something like missing some inner part of me that would make life enjoyable. I mean come on, I'm a cool guy!

When being in huge groups, it feels much less personal, and although I'm engaging conversations, they're only on general topics. Note that I used to be the one who would sit and listen but I have improved since.

Also, it's less frequent that people will really cover a matter when hanging in groups. It's more going to be a question of doing an activity together and to fool around; nothing serious at all, it is much more focused around having basic fun.

 

[Bobby.net]

My social life is going up these days. I'm really enjoying where I'm working for the summer, for now...(as it will change because of the schedule)

However, I'm still looking for tips because soon or later, I'll be back to school and my social life will hurt once more.

 

[julates]

Yeah! I am with you and wishing you for great time!
All the best!


:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

 

[Bobby.net]

My situation is still an issue, I need some tips. Especially on 'What makes you think you should approach a girl as a girlfriend rather than only as a friend?'