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Die Hard

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Hey men,

Just curious to your opinions about this.

I was in the club, it was crowded, two girls were making their way through the crowd. As the first one tried to pass me, I looked at her like I was very scared and jokingly told her: "You're not gonna push me aside, are you?"

She didn't really respond, so I just slapped her ass, lol. Then she stoppped and turned around, saying: "That's not a reason to touch my ass, is it?" She looked real angry... I could see on her face that she really felt like I had sexually harassed her or something and she thought of me as a sleazy dirtbag. It actually made me feel like a sleazy dirtbag...

Should I feel like a sleazy dirtbag? Would you?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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grayclif

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Diehard - are you ok? Consider yourself lucky she could have told her boyfriend that you slapped her.
 

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worst pick up ever.
 

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grayclif said:
Diehard - are you ok? Consider yourself lucky she could have told her boyfriend that you slapped her.

She also could have had him arrested. Not a good move.



Cheers!
 

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Never slap some random chicks a$s. You risk the wrath of her bf, captain save a ho guy friend, or the bouncer. You also risk getting booted and even banned from your favorite bar/club. As Roman God points out, you also risk arrest.

She didn't respond to your opener, which showed her lack of interest. The slap just made matters worse and pissed her off.
 

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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I guess this gets us one step closer to the answer of that grand question that so many people have been asking. Is sleazy sexy??? :D:

I remember from my travels through Central America there were a couple occasions where I was mob groped by a bunch of young girls in a crowd. I was even felt up in a bank once. While this may seem like a young guy's dream I remember getting pissed off about it. Extremely violating.

I'm not saying your lighthearted ass slap was as bad as full on groping but it is kinda sleazy.
 

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Yeah well, I was drunk as hell and just not giving a fvck about anything or anyone in the whole wide world. I could've done far worse things, lol. Funny thing is I really snapped out of that attitude when she confronted me. The power of women... :)
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Die Hard said:
Yeah well, I was drunk as hell and just not giving a fvck about anything or anyone in the whole wide world.
Whether or not groping some random chick's ass is a major sign of disrespect [which it is] -- maybe ^^^ is the bigger thing to be thinking about.
 

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I get a lot of azz slappin' and butt pinching from hot women and it makes me feel sooooo....cheap and dirty.

I need her to buy me at least a decent dinner and then some slow dancing to get a mood happening...THEN she can slap me.

:up:
 

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.....what country are you from?

i've hear of some places in europe where this is a little more common then in Cand/US.
 

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spider_007 said:
.....what country are you from?

i've hear of some places in europe where this is a little more common then in Cand/US.
I'm from Australia. Check your atlas. It's that BIG Island in the Sth Pacific just above Antarctica.

OH and yeh, women down here are gropers.(Not the fish type) .
I have a wingman, and we take turnabout at keeping the chicks off each other. Damn horny b!tches can get tedious when we go out for a quiet drink and a chat..

:crackup:
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jophil28 said:
I'm from Australia. Check your atlas. It's that BIG Island in the Sth Pacific just above Antarctica.

OH and yeh, women down here are gropers.(Not the fish type) .
I have a wingman, and we take turnabout at keeping the chicks off each other. Damn horny b!tches can get tedious when we go out for a quiet drink and a chat..

:crackup:
Wasn't asking you there-bud, so tune down the sarcasam.
 

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I wouldn't slap a girl's ass until she responds to you/engages you in SOME way. You don't go after a girl's ass after she ignores/doesn't respond to you. You may as well just be going to a supermarket and smacking girls in the ass. This kind of stuff is why you see girls on dating websites who are "tired of the bar scene".

Live and learn, I guess. There have been some times back in my drunk days where I've groped girls in a crowd. Now I can actually GET women.
 

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There are only a few rare scenarios where you can get away with ass slapping random girls:

1. Official ASAA Ass slapping competitions
2. Japanese game shows
3. Drive bys
4. Delivering babies
5. Blindfold parties
6. Filming porn
7. Jumping from a burning airplane without a parachute
8. Somebody else's blowup doll
 

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This reminds me of a time a girl got mad at me for grabbing her ass. Only problem is she grabbed mine first and I specifically told her I'd get her back. The nerve on that one.
 

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Die Hard said:
Hey men,

Just curious to your opinions about this.

I was in the club, it was crowded, two girls were making their way through the crowd. As the first one tried to pass me, I looked at her like I was very scared and jokingly told her: "You're not gonna push me aside, are you?"

She didn't really respond, so I just slapped her ass, lol. Then she stoppped and turned around, saying: "That's not a reason to touch my ass, is it?" She looked real angry... I could see on her face that she really felt like I had sexually harassed her or something and she thought of me as a sleazy dirtbag. It actually made me feel like a sleazy dirtbag...

Should I feel like a sleazy dirtbag? Would you?

How was she dressed?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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