"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SKINNY GUYS: what's YOUR plan to bulk up (and look great)???

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I'm keen to hear the plans from skinny guys on here that are trying to bulk up a and sculpt an awesome body. Please share your plan details and any extra comments in this thread. Hopefully we can all help and support each other to achieve some excellent results.

as for me, I'm planning to start slow by doing something similar to Scooby's Beginner Workout as found here;

http://scoobysworkshop.com/schedbeginning.htm

basically working out 3 times a week doing pushups, crunches and pullups. Then in three months from now I'll reassess and take things to the next level.

I also plan on increasing my food intake slightly every two weeks and basically eating as clean and as healthy as possible. I'm aiming for 6 meals a day, 6 days a week with one free day.

SKINNY PEOPLE UNITE! what's YOUR plan? Please share it here
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CaptainJ

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lol... you'll never bulk up on that bodyweight program. Plus it doesn't even have squats in it. Also cardio? That'll only curb your bulking progress. My friend, if you want to go bulk hardcore, then you need to go hardcore. Squats, deadlifts, bench press, over head press and power cleans are what you need. You also need to shove vast quantities of food in your mouth, it does not really matter whether its healthy or not, as long as it's alot.

Do you have access to a barbell and power cage? Because without those you can't get big unless you get really creative (I'm talking huge ass tire creative).

Get on a program like Rippetoe's strength program which has you squatting 3x a week.

In a year I've gained 3 stone whilst on stronglifts 5x5 and rippetoes, just remember to drink ****loads of milk too.
 

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Skinny Guys, for a little extra help coming up with somethign check the 'Where to Start' and 'Simple Starting Diet' links in the Vault. Do workout B.

As for eating and not caring about what it is your shoving down your mouth as CaptainJ suggests, this should only be done if you are extremely skinny and or have a really hard time gaining weight after trying a healthy bulking diet. Dirty bulking is a last resort.
 
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please dont do the "start off gentle then later on do harder stuff "...you'll never get anywhere

start off hard (as captainj said), and join a f-ing gym, you cant get motivated at home and there are too many distractions, the gym is a motivational environment
 

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like the others have said.

Get access to a barbell and power rack,
Eat big,
Lift big,
Become big.

Push ups wont cut it.

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LoL, I just had a quick read of your link

"Remember that adding muscle takes years, the most you can expect to add in a year is 5-10lbs"

My 15- 20lb of muscle in nine months dissagrees, and my results are fairly typical.
This man doesnt know what he's talking about.

Cure.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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stayfly

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thanks for the helpful replies guys

I probably should have mentioned that I have some significant postural issues that I'm trying to get handled at the moment and until then I've been told by my doctor and personal trainer friend to stick with bodyweight exercises only for now. I am hoping to lift big and eat big eventually though (hopefully in three months from now).
 

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stayfly said:
thanks for the helpful replies guys

I probably should have mentioned that I have some significant postural issues that I'm trying to get handled at the moment and until then I've been told by my doctor and personal trainer friend to stick with bodyweight exercises only for now. I am hoping to lift big and eat big eventually though (hopefully in three months from now).
What kind of postural issues? I would get a second opinion, because alot of doctors have unsolicited beef with weightlifting and are quick to say stop doing it. So ask another doctor and see if they corroborate. Also take whatever your personal trainer says with a pinch of salt, the vast majority of them are useless and have no clue what they are doing. You shouldn't bother with them as they are just a waste of money, especially if they aren't telling you to do squats.
 

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I specialize in posture issues. Your main goal will be the strengthening of your upper back, erector, hips, glutes and hamstrings (you will also have to develop flexibity since a majority of al of my clients who have posture issues also have flexibility issies as well). You will need to rely heavily on machines for awhile until your ready to start transition exercises. Stick with bodyweight !!!! DO NOT ATTEMPT to start barbell training yet.
 

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Thats right stayfly ! Your doctor and PT friend who actually see you in person and have a good idea of your condition better than any of us...made a mistake when they told you to TEMPORARILY do bodyweight exercises. It would be a whole lot smarter to go hard and heavy because you WILL become a giant mass monster within the next 2 weeks of doing so. 3 months is way to long to take the time to develop correct posture and learn things the right way !!

it seems form and technique dont really matter to guys on this forum..especially a rounded back when squatting or deadlifting...because lifting heavier weight with technical flaws and muscular imbalances combined with a lot of food will fix your problems and keep you safe from injury.

...good luck !! (because luck makes it all better)
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I-tallionStallion

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Drum&Bass said:
Your main goal will be the strengthening of your upper back, erector, hips, glutes and hamstrings (you will also have to develop flexibity since a majority of al of my clients who have posture issues also have flexibility issies as well). You will need to rely heavily on machines for awhile until your ready to start transition exercises. Stick with bodyweight !!!! DO NOT ATTEMPT to start barbell training yet.
Follow this opinion and your doctors. I didn't know you had issues with your posture.

Well anyways this post was about what's skinny guys plans, not big guys plans for skinny guys hahaha that includes myself and a good lot of you. I have to learn to read the post titles a little better.
 

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I'm trying to bulk up as well. Just started up on a new work out regimen. It's pretty simple. Exercise 1. chest + shoulder, Exercise 2. arms + back and Exercise 3. legs, each once a week. I was told to use heavy weights that only allow me to do 6-8 reps per set and do about 4-5 sets each session.

Before when I was trying to bulk up, I would just focus on my chest and arms. This was bad because 1. after a few weeks I hit a plateau without knowing and my progress stopped and 2. I didn't implement any other body areas in my workout especially squats.

Throughout high school and college, my weight always stuck around 115-120 and I'm 5'7". Ever since implementing squats(3 weeks), I'm up to 130, which is still skinny but it's improving.

I need to be eating more too. I can only fit in 3-4 meals a days. I need to somehow manage to squeeze in 6.
 

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i read diesels way to bulk up
his diet section really helped , withtout a solid diet you will not get anywhere or atleast anywhere fast.
 

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Be careful with GOMAD and Starting Strength, for me it was so effective i had stretchmarks running down my hamstrings
 

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JDiddy said:
Be careful with GOMAD and Starting Strength, for me it was so effective i had stretchmarks running down my hamstrings
^^ I still have stretch marks on my ass. I think of them as hard earned battle scars. Shame they are fading.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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that plan doesnt' look very effective
my bulk plan
hit the gym 4 times a week
increase weight every week
Eat like crazy..

pretty much it
also sleep alot been working so far dont' see a reason to stop
 

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I am a pretty skinny guy. I have been working out for a while and have made decent progress but not what I wanted. I have recently started the squat and milk program and am a little over a week in. Its pretty tough but it might work for you. Make sure you have good form on the squats though or you will hurt yourself.
 

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It's been about 4 months since I've been working out (had a couple of off weeks). Went from 125 to 140lbs.

Just started up on the 5x5 program. Still looking to gain at least another 15 lbs by the end of the year.

Keep it up and keep goin at it skinny guys!
 

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Gaining bulk requires low weight high rep.
Getting toned and cut requires high weight low rep.

I utilize both techniques, emphasizing more on the latter as opposed to the former.
 

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GhostWriter said:
Gaining bulk requires low weight high rep.
Getting toned and cut requires high weight low rep.
isn't it the other way around? I believe you got it twisted.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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