Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, weirdly enough, this story probably won't make for any interesting cable news fodder.Jaylan said:
Corrected. Despite the media hiding "minority" violent crime, I can find several times as many cases of blacks involved in shooting despite only being about 13% of the population.amoka said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So what youre saying is that when threads talk about a specific current event, a good response is to shift attention on a different crime?speed dawg said:
It sounds like you are describing yourself perfectly.Jaylan said:
Gaylan is our man bites dog journalist. Scores and scores of "enrichment" shenanigans *Yawn* BORING!!!!Tictac said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
A story in the national spotlight is random? Because the Mesa shooting surely isnt a random internet story. But seems Ive struck a cord with the right wingers on this board.Tictac said:
No one gets angry about the fact or disagrees that there are some white gang members and criminals.Jaylan said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Whats the difference between that and right wing news sources shouting "thug" or "terrorist" whenever given the chance? Is that not the same foaming at the mouth for dramatic effect in the effort to get ratings?Stagger Lee said:
The difference is in the second and third sentence of my very post you just quoted. Duh.Jaylan said:
Yeah. This is a big deal when a white person does it because they don't do it often.Jaylan said:
Ah yes...because white mass shootings are so rare in America.VikingKing said:
You know what would make good news? If at least 20% of blacks from the inner city graduated from college. Sh!t even if they at least tried college. That would be a shock and news worthy.Jaylan said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
