Situational Neediness - GF became distant after going out of town - Going No Contact a good idea?

[Spaz]

Welcome to SS.

Plenty of advices here. Some might hit below the belt while others are more gentle but everyone means well.

And if the majority are saying basically the same thing, as hard as it might be; you better believe that's the likely outcome.

In every adversity there's always an opportunity, in your case, I'll take this as an opportunity to learn and then grow into the man you are meant to be. A great man.

 

[jacketrunner]

Yeah it’s like wait out

Welcome to SS.

Plenty of advices here. Some might hit below the belt while others are more gentle but everyone means well.

And if the majority are saying basically the same thing, as hard as it might be; you better believe that's the likely outcome.

In every adversity there's always an opportunity, in your case, I'll take this as an opportunity to learn and then grow into the man you are meant to be. A great man.

Yeah plus I’ll get over it super fast

 

[R.U.G.]

So you went to Grindr for a male replacement?

 

[jacketrunner]

Not cheating if it’s a dude

 

[jacketrunner]

Aight boys, so I’ve received my advice.

Appreciate all the kind replies, and the insulting ones.

Now that I’ve got the opinions, it’s time for me to focus on my life outside of this relationship.

If any interesting developments happen, will you posted.

 

[Spaz]

Oh come to think abt it, just be careful abt the new age ideology, some followers of hypergamy hv progressed or regressed(dependent on ur outlook) into mgtow and took it a step further into incel-hood.

Looking for a male replacement might even be considered progressive to some and might even be an attractive alternative.

Reminds me of the story I recently read about a goat being raped to death by 8 men, wonder what drove them towards it. Link below;

https://www.google.com/amp/www.dail...ng-rape-stolen-pregnant-goat-death-India.html

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Actually, your ideology is new age. Get butthurt at any negativity and choose positive beliefs.

Positivety isn't being but hurt at negative feedback. It's choosing to choose a predominantly positive outlook and making corrections with the negative feedback. Whereas negative people get stuck in a loop pity partying or playing crabs in a barrel, positive people continually strive to improve.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So we do spend way too much time here worrying about what women think and why they do what they do.

It's somewhat necessary due to the changes in what's going on in society.

But staying stuck on it and make it a dominant thought is feminine.

Men simply need to put their needs at a priority and avoid being jerked around or used. It's very possible when you understand what's going on..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Look at the context of the thread. The guy denies hypergamy for crying out loud and is whining that we believe in it

He was saying focusing on it is a losing proposition. Fvck. It is what it is. To blame it Everytime something doesn't go your way is weak.

When we look at all the parameters it can look pretty ****ty. We have to rise above it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

He was saying focusing on it is a losing proposition. Fvck. It is what it is. To blame it Everytime something doesn't go your way is weak.

When we look at all the parameters it can look pretty ****ty. We have to rise above it.

Man... Fvck those bytches. Lol.

 

[Spaz]

Look at the context of the thread. The guy denies hypergamy for crying out loud and is whining that we believe in it

As opposed 2 you who whines that he has no holding power, I must be a God.

 

[Spaz]

He was saying focusing on it is a losing proposition. Fvck. It is what it is. To blame it Everytime something doesn't go your way is weak.

When we look at all the parameters it can look pretty ****ty. We have to rise above it.

Clever.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

As opposed 2 you who whines that he has no holding power, I must be a God.

Your far AHEAD of the hoez. Well ahead in a good spot. When we worry too much about what they think why they do this or do that we are behind.

 

[Spaz]

Your far AHEAD of the hoez. Well ahead in a good spot. When we worry too much about what they think why they do this or do that we are behind.

Which is why I keep saying, don't hv a victim mentality, it's a vicious circle people keep themselves in.

But many can't see this.

 

[Spaz]

You have power over yourself, not delusional power over other people lol

U r really clueless aren't you.

I wish you well then. Some men just deserves to have their DNA go extinct.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Which is why I keep saying, don't hv a victim mentality, it's a vicious circle people keep themselves in.

But many can't see this.

I heard what you were saying. We have to be aware of this mentality and avoid it. It's very possible for a man to get far ahead of hoez. Stay true to his priorities and his purpose.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Delusional men in particular, poor kids

How's spaz delusional. Victim mindset in any aspect is weakness. It's also unattractive. It also kills confidence.

Spaz is well out ahead of hoez, it's not impossible. Hoez have a like mindset, similar motives and they are very confused!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

One of the tenants if being ahead of hoez is focusing on getting your shyt together and staying on purpose. When your ahead of them is when the magic happens.

 

[jacketrunner]

Update: she just texted me again asking why I hadn’t called.

I tried calling her and she said she said she couldn’t take it.

I asked her if she was afraid I didn’t miss her. She pointed out that I haven’t once called her and told her I missed her. I told her I couldn’t read minds, and that there was no way of knowing whether she wanted that or if she wanted space. I told her that sending clear signals is more effective than tests, and that I’m not a fan of games.

She said I was being ridiculous, and I agreed/amplified the ridiculous part and told her I stood by what I said. But that I could talk when she’s free.

Think she’s at a bar rn with co-workers. Maybe could’ve handled it better but at least I didn’t supplicate or chase.

I’m not gonna chase her.

 

[Spaz]

Victim mindset in any aspect is weakness. It's also unattractive. It also kills confidence.

This.

Now men here would do well to remember that.

To win despite the odds, the correct mindset is important.

Have fvcking high standards and be highly effective.