"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Situation With This Girl *MUST READ*- How to Respond to These Situations

Dante420

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Alright so here's the thing with my prom date

I met her awhile ago at this kids house. She later admitted she thought I was gorgeous, but that's beside the point. At the time I slapped her and she remembered that the next time she got in contact with me on Myspace.
She commented one of my pics and a conversation ensued that spilled over on to AOL Instant Messenger, she took my number and texted me the next day. We talked, she flirted and I was in control of the situation. I hung out with her on the beach this weekend, she was with her male friend who has game and was trying to get with her hard but she seemed to think I'd care so she didn't let him kiss her or anything.

Question for the Don Juans
Also what do you normally do in these types of situations

The social proof came when another girl who's been throwing herself at me after meeting me a few days ago, one of the first things she said to me after getting my number was that she wanted to make me smile and she asked me what makes me smile (since then she made me cookies, and has flirted with me hard, even talking to me while at parties and insisted upon it and just yesterday texting me saying something about how she's in bed and waiting for me [this girl is not a slut, I assure you]). As soon as this girl showed up briefly my prom date stepped her game up and said I needed to hold her hand and walk with her because she wanted some girl to see her with me. Later, me and her were alone and we were talking and flirting. She was telling me how she hated me because every part of my body was perfect. We sat down and I pulled her close to me (it wasn't exactly a warm night). I kind of wanted to move a bit faster to establish my position over the other kid who she has known longer. I brushed her neck with my two finger and told her she was really warm. I bit her on the shoulder and she was like "Wooooow. . . .I hate you. . . .that's the biggest turn on". I said, "Your lucky I'm hitting I'm hitting the switch, your gonna hate this one". I moved my face into her neck and kissed up it and sucked on it and moved down (girls always love this) while I was touching her back. Then I just simply moved my head around at an angle and went in for the first kiss and then we made out for a little bit before her female friend called and asked us where we are.

Since then she asked to hang out with me the next day on the beach I told her to text me when she gets there and I'd let her know if I was busy or not. Well I didn't end up seeing her that day (Sunday) and then it's been two days and she hasn't texted me at all (she texted me at least once a day all last week).

Since she is my prom date. . . . .

Should I text her soon or should I wait until she gets in contact with me?
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think it'd be very beneficial to a lot on here to discuss how to respond to these situations.

A girl playing the "Who will text first thing", it's immature but common. My second time dealing with it

Also when your hanging out with a girl and the girl's male friend trying to get with her?
 

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well she definitely likes you..right now she doesn't know if you like her...and thats good...as long as she's like that she's great...your in control as long as she doesn't know...

if i were you i would set up another hang-out...
you gotta make a move on her again...
and have fun with her...make sure when you leave she thinks highly of you...take her to prom and then afterwards...go in for the KILL

i would..i feel like if your not trying to f*ck a girl that you like after the age of 17 then its totally irrelevant in what you are doing... lmao
 

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I'm 17 and I agree. I'm gotta a good amount of girls on the plate 3 guaranteed, and plenty of other girls show interest. The girl I'm going to prom with knows that to but everyone knows I just came off a 2 year relationship. I'm not the relationship guy anymore, it would take something special and to make me commit, I'm young.


She was wanting to sleep over my house but needed to go with her ride. I could set something up real soon, when do you think I should be getting back in touch with her. That stuff happened Saturday, it's Tuesday now.

What if a girl straight up asks you "Do you like me?"

I could picture myself saying something like "Wouldn't you just like to know" - What would your response be?
 

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i would get in contact with her today if i where you..

as far as if she asks if you like her or not just say..."im getting to like you...the more and more we hang out" you should never be direct with women...it takes the mystery out of the relationship and women are all about indirect signals...lol (i know right...there f*king weird...lol when us guys are so upfront...) in the dating world you have to play by there rules...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alright, I'll text her tonight.

Thanks for the advice.

What about hanging out with a girl who's being hit on by another guy who's trying to get with her.
 
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