Situation with guy "friends", hallmates

[DJVladdy]

Please tell me if you think this is normal:

I try and make plans of thursday with a few boys from the hall (all guys floor). They're like yea, yea, there are parties, we just gotta decide which one. I'm like okay, make sure you come by my room, or call me. I'm gonna join ya'll. Okay.

Tonight, I'm pregaming with them in one of their rooms. I had a beer or two, but they were "good" and were hitting that Captain Morgan. I'm like ok guys Ima go get ready. When are we leaving? guy says "not for a little while". Cool. I go sh!t, shower, shave... one of them comes up says hey, we're leaving soon. I'm like okay, just dont leave w/o me. he says ok. I brush my teeth, then go to my room, to get dressed and make myself look sexy (I don't take longer time than average). I come out of my room...

hey, what do ya know, dumba$$es are gone! I flipped out, cuz I NEVER was $hitted on like that. Pure disrespect. If for example I was in the room, and another person took a little longer to get ready - I'd make sure the rest of us waited. Besides, I hooked them up w/drinks cuz I turned 21 not long ago, and liquor store is right across the street. THIS is how they pay me back for helping them out? We're not close-close... but we've been buddies and beighbors on the same floor. I called one of them who'se # i know, cussed him out. Lol lets see if he will even have the nerve to ask me for liquor again.

I did't get too mad, only for a little bit. This time - doors and walls stayed un-broken, I just checked, lol. I didn't stay mad for long, because... hey, maybe people born in the US have a different mindset? Maybe this is considered normal? I've been here since 12, but I still sometimes have trouble understanding Americans. So let me know, maybe I'm wrong.

 

[Evolution]

Forget them, its so silly getting upset over something like this.

 

[SickAgain]

Most Americans aren't like that. But you judged these people improperly as friends instead of leeches and users. I've never been disrespected like that. I'd go find different people to chill with, and if they tried being cool with you, say something like you gotta make it up to me, a simple sorry wouldn't suffice in this case because, one thing I learned is that saying sorry never really means much.

 

[Effington]

Nine times out of ten there is a girl involved pulling strings behind the scenes. If I were you I'd call and ask what happened, but I agree, it is still really crappy of them.

How did your night end up?

 

[DJVladdy]

They're all saying how they tried calling me/ knocked on my door 5 times...oh well. I ended up watching a movie. They said party wasnt that good, they came back early.

And effington, I disagree (personally): Neither me nor any of my real friends had their "strings pulled" especially by a woman. You're destined to be the MASTER not the puppet. a GIRL pulling strings?? Bro are you for real?

 

[Effington]

For example, I am referring to issues with arranging transportation. A lot of times there are parking constraints (being double parked, etc.) that put time issues on priority. Also, if your friend has whiney girlfriends (I know a few girls that really piss me off) that complain about things such as weather, ie, black women really getting testy regarding keeping their hair dry. There are a few others, as well. In those cases, I think you should try and shut them up, although you're definitely free to make fun of them at will later.

I'd also add that most of them are not good excuses, but they do explain why things occur, as opposed to these guys just being jackholes and trying to ditch you, as I think the original post infers.