Situation with girl I'm dating

[pipe007]

Hey guys
so I'm dating this girl, it's been a month. Things are going great! she initiates most of the texts, an all of the phone calls....
I call less often.. and do it on purpose..

ok well, she went on vacation to see old friends for a week an half, and the fist day she called me and kept texting me, but seems like the texting has decreased, specially now in the weekend... today she is going to this party to meet up with old friends...

she asked me what I was doing tonight, I said probly hang out with buddies.... well my plan is not to contact all night, unless she does, part of me wants to call her to and see what she is up to....

what would you guys do in this situation? my plan is no contact, and "w.e" she will contact me if she really wishes... and if not... then should I take it as a red flag?

I was thinking she really might be GF material, but she has decreased contact over the weekend... and today specially since she is going to this get together...

comments?

 

[Cremasta]

Just to check if I've read your post right...

You've deliberately not initiated contact with her over the last month, but now that she's not initiating as much you think it might be a red flag?

If you're interested in this girl (and you've said you are) then you need to act at least a little bit keen.

You not contacting her much over the last month may have been a big red flag for her which she's ignored so far, but now her interest is dropping because it seems to her that she's doing all the work to keep the contact going.

 

[Jay Dee]

Cremasta, Pipe does say he has been calling less often in the past month (yes he did say first that she does initiate all the calls)

Pipe, leave the gal alone bud. You ain't quite with her yet, you should be spinning those other plates to keep the focus off this one anyway. She's on hols so the space is always good to focus on other things. The game could change at any time and you should be able to move on to another plate in a trice. Keep doing what you have been doing, less or slower contact than her, but be a bit unpredictable too. If she doesn't call, then call next day or 2 (and for goodness sakes don't ask why she didn't call).

 

[Purefilth]

^^^this^^^
definitely do not ask why she hasnt called!!!

 

[pipe007]

THank you guys
this is weird... logically, I do feel like asking "how come you are not calling as before" lol but I know better....

I've learned that this is a game of being a bit less attached, reactive, and needy than her... let her be the one who is chasing a bit more...
so if I ask why she hasn't called, then I am being more reactive than her, a bit more needy than her.... not good for attracion.. right???

but if she starts decreasing contact, and then I decrease mine.... then that is pretty much game over?

I guess I ask cuz I'm caring more than I should... ughh!!! time to meet new ones to keep me busy...

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Dude... SHE'S ON VACATION. I don't EVER text a girl on vacation 'cause I know she's going to be distracted doing other things. If she text you, great, but dude... SHE'S ON VACATION. A girl can still be liking you but have her attention focused elsewhere, especially when SHE'S ON VACATION. You'd have been better off just telling her to hit u up when she's back in town.

As a side note: texting is really wimpy. Phone calls are better.