Situation I need help with - Roommates ex

[ASUknowit18]

Try to make it short and sweet.

Met a girl through my roommate, who he USED to date 5 years ago (high school BS 18, 19 years old). They are really good friends - NO feelings. He WANTED me to go for her. He is a natural so its not like he is going to ever be hung up on her.

I met her 4 or 5 times before, but never went hard after her, just kept it light and friendly, even though she is smoking hot. We always got along and she would give subtle hints she was interested to my roommate and to myself.

She lives 1.5 hours away from us, so she comes down for weekends only. I asked her out to a baseball game on a Friday we both had off. She accepted and said how pumped she was and how we were going to get hammered and have a good time.

Thats exactly what happened. Had a great time with her, although I didnt let her know that. Ended up having sex, twice. Really good times.

That was on a Friday. She texted me when she left saying she was sorry for being so loud Sat morning when she left and that She had a great time and it was SO fun. That was that.

I decide to call her Wednesday - It rings twice and goes to voicemail - I dont leave messages. No call back. Hmm. I went out of town Thurs - Sun. I think I texted her that following Tuesday asking what her plans were for the weekend. She was in Missouri that weekend and I am out of town this weekend.

We havent talked since - So to recap - Date was 3 weeks ago, only texted back and forth a little bit. She posted pictures of the game on facebook - saying it was the "most fun game ever."

I am interested in this chick - for sure to hook up w again, but I honestly had a fun time with her at the game and would like to see where it goes.

What should my gameplan be? I will see her again b/c she hangs out with my friend/roommate when she comes to the city...

Its kind of an interesting scenario b/c my friend kind of throws a curve into how I should handle this.

My initial thought is that she was/is looking for a casual relationship...which I guess I wont complain about...thoughts?

 

[hover411]

i had a similar situation happen....

you gotta realize that

1) an outta town relationship is not gonna work out.

2) if she was REALLY into you, she would have contacted you.

the best thing you can hope for in these situations, is a casual friendship in which the two of you may hook up IF it is convenient.

your best play at this point, seeing as how she is not returning your texts or missed calls, is to cut off contact.

eventually, you will cross paths again since she comes into town to hang with your mutual friend. you are gonna be cool like fonzi from Happy Days, and NOT sweat her at all.

act like your hookup was no big deal, and just hang out casually. act the same way you were before, that made her attracted to you in the beginning. that will get into her head, and she may see you as a challenge again.

the absolute worst thing you can do is keep trying to contact/smother her. she will then avoid you like the plague.

EDIT: keep us updated

 

[ASUknowit18]

thx for quick response -

Not sure if you saw, but she did return my only text - The only thing she didnt return was one phone call that may have went straight to voicemail, and I didnt leave message...

 

[hover411]

i missed that, but the same things apply.

what can you reasonably expect to happen from here? just enjoy it for what it is worth, and don't expect more. just take it if the opportunity arises again.