"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey guys, need advice.

Okay so ive been talkin to this girl for a while, like 4 months. She lives far away so we talked and agreed that we didnt want anything serious cause of the distance.

So, of course, me, bein a DJ go and meet new women and hooked up with one. She found out and is pissed now.

I think that this is whack, because if we didnt mutually agree that we wanted to be serious, then anything should be fair game, and i should have been able to go and meet other women that are closer and that i can see on a regular basis.

So now we're not talkin... her friend IMs me today... i ask how she is.. she tells me that shes havin college friends over on Fri to go out.

Then she tells me that i should be worried that the girl is goin to hook up with another guy ... im thinkin she was trying to make me jealous. But of course im not, if we werent serious, i could hook up wit other girls and so could she.

The thing is though, im not sure if shes tellin me that to make me jealous and give me a hint to like f*ck off.....or if she said that so that i would try to contact her first and try and talk to her.

Any of you guys got any clues as to what it could mean, if anything at all? i mean until this happened i was jus gonna move on...plenty more girls out there.

Let me know...Much appreciated.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Osiris7250

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key thing to remember...... your better than her, you dont need her! like you said there are plenty of other chics out there. and as far as her friend goes, if she brings it up again reply with "and..,why should i be worried about that, or state the stuff about not gettin serious with her because of distance." shes a women, so chances are she is trying to piss you off cause she is jelous (if she wasnt jelous why would she be pissed;) ). next her man, keep up DJ the ones near you and after a while once she knows you really dont care she will probly come crawling back.
 

LikRetsam

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Obviously your female friend was hoping to keep you as a trophy. You broke that sacred bond by hooking up with another chick. You did nothing outside of the agreed upon rules so you have nothing to worry about. If she hooks up with another guy, so what? You'll know she's only doing it in spite of you especially if she goes out of her way so that you find out.

Don't worry about it. Just keep going with your life and think nothing of it. If she comes up with it, ignore it like it happened to a random stranger.
 

Osiris7250

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......you dont need nothin else, you got the same answer from two DJ's. only person whos gonna tell you somethin different is an AFC.... just next the chic and live your life to the fullest. :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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