"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Situation at school

sanyo7878

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Hello all,

I apologize in advance for boring you with my story. (but if you do read it, pls advise and or give comments)

OK, So i had a class with this really cute chick about a year ago (I wouldn't call her hot, but she is extremely cute). Anyway, I had a big crush on her from the first time I saw her. I was a total AFC but managed to talk to her after class a few times and got some major IOIs (biggest one was one time in class she walked by me grabbed my arm and looked back over her shoulder and gave me this please come fvck me look). Anyway, like i said, I was a total AFC and never asked her for her number. Like 6 months later (after not seeing her much for that 6 months), I talked to her some on facebook and ask her out to play golf (i know, it was lame to use facebook)... and she never responded (big surprise...). So we end up out playing pool with mutual friends like a week later and i ask her when we are going to play golf and she gives me the biggest blow off ever. It wasn't mean but just an obvious blow off. I took this great and I still laugh about it with my friends. So I totally forget about this girl and move on. (I did find out later that some dude she kind of had a thing with was in the pool hall but not with us) Its been about six months again. I just started graduate school and she ends up in my lab group. I didn't ask her, she just joined it and she could have very easily joined a different group. This is going to akward for me b/c I had such a big crush on her and she knew it and knew I was a total AFC. WTF should I do? I mean I want to ask her out again, but i don't want to fvck up my school work. But at the same time i guess she could have joined my group b/c she wants me to ask her out or something. I don't know. Or she could have joined my group because she thinks i'm smart and want to mooch off of me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KarmaSutra

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Biggest problem is that you "asked" her to join you for golf (which is admirable as I'm an avid golfer). You'll not ask her anything from now on. This is what you'll do:

1. Look her square in the eye.
2. Tell her with supreme confidence that you're going golfing and that it would be fun if she joined you.
3. Make it damned clear to princess that you'll be having a blast with and most undoubtadly without her. Make it her loss. Women love to be challenged and be the predator not the prey.

If she blinks fvck the b!tch.
 

sanyo7878

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bump and update.

I haven't asked her out or anything like that yet, but i have been getting some IOIs the past couple of days. (no major obvious ones, just minor ones)
 

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this time show her that you've changed a lot in a fuking way.. do not get into her never ever but play with her..be funny and dirty guy..

stay cool play with the pool
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SELF-MASTERY

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Trapper said:
this time show her that you've changed a lot in a fuking way.. do not get into her never ever but play with her..be funny and dirty guy..

stay cool play with the pool
exactly

shed your nice guy skin...
 
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