"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Sitting in the hall waiting for class....

Bluesteak

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2008
Messages
135
Reaction score
1
Location
Kalifornia
And I look over and see my Oneitis walking towards me, about three months ago I called her out on her stupid decisions and how she constantly disrespects me, I ended it on a basically **** you have a nice day basis, but she goes to my College.

I completely cut ALL contact and have been feeling great without her in my life, so shes walking past me and we made EC and she says "Hi Bluesteak", Im like "yo" mumbling and she says "how have you've been" im like good. She walks into the bathroom and then walks past the other way to get back to class without saying anything.

So guys, Did I just waste 3 months of no contact and having the last word, and do you think She feels she has won now?

And the reason I couldnt completely ignore her was there were other people around so I didn't want to come off as a **** to half the class.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Rounder

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 7, 2008
Messages
200
Reaction score
8
Location
Missouri
What do you care if she thinks she "won"? What does it matter?

If she treated you poorly you move on - which you did.

And now it's killing you not to have contact with her? She'll laugh and think you're pathetic if you contact her in some way now.

If she says hi it's fine to reply with a hi yourself, just don't invest anything else in her.

Dude you're 19 - you got girls all over the place around you, let her go and find some fresh meat.


At the same time, I want to say, yeah, you are 19, so go ahead and make this mistake and learn your lesson, call her, chase after her, make that mistake while you're young. After you feel beat down and dejected and can barely pick yourself up off the floor then you can figure out where you went wrong.
 

Bluesteak

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2008
Messages
135
Reaction score
1
Location
Kalifornia
I have NO need to contact her, I just dont want her to think because I said hi that I want to be friends again, shes tried to make her way back into my life through my friends about 3 months ago, thats where I drew the line. She has caused great trouble between me and a friend.
 

Rounder

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 7, 2008
Messages
200
Reaction score
8
Location
Missouri
Nah let it go. She said hi first. She'd know if you wanted contact you'd find a way to do so.

And don't think she is sitting around thinking about this - she has her own life, friends and is seeing other guys. She isn't concerned about being your friend again.

Be cordial when you see her and leave it at that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Top