"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sir_Chancealot's Definitive Neg-Hit Post

KCFlyer

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Good post Sir_Chancealot.

What is the difference between sarcasm and a neg-hit? I think sarcasm is bad, but is related to a neg-hit. (I have a sarcastic sense of humor, and I’m trying to change that.) If you study Family Relations, they all say to avoid the use of sarcasm. It only hurts relationships long term. How can you make sure that your neg-hit is not just another sarcastic remark that nobody appreciates. What do you do if the girl really is offended at the neg-hit?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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(I think most of us are tired of the Wyldfire-Giovanni bickering.)

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Brilliant, Chance. Simply brilliant.

I really like your description of what goes through women's heads when you deliver a perfect neg-hit. I noticed that too. First shock, then exasperation, then respect/desire for me. Ah ha ha ha!

Also, I'd like to point out I noticed a lot of newbies seem to have trouble finding opportunities to use neg hits, but I've noticed if you're observant, every conversation with any woman offers TONS of opportunities for neg hits. Especially the really hot, younger girls who don't have the mental capacity to see it coming. Just listen to what she says and observe her and you'll see tons of flaws in even the hottest woman--which becomes fodder for your neg-hits.

Jake
 

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Outstanding Sir_Chancealot! Neg-hits have always been one of my weaknesses, I needed this post. Thank you!

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"If at first you dont succeed, try, try, again"

"No not try, DO. Or do not. There is no try." -Yoda
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova:
(I think most of us are tired of the Wyldfire-Giovanni bickering.)

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Are we sure these 2 aren't married or related in some way?


I bow to you, Sir_Chancealot for such a an excellent coverage. Jousting tips for the 21st century.

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"Step aside everyone! Sensitive love letters are my specialty. 'Dear Baby, Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you.'" - Homer J. Simpson
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Good post.

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The more girls you ask out the more chances of you getting a yes.
 

Sir_Chancealot

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Originally posted by KCFlyer:
Good post Sir_Chancealot.

What is the difference between sarcasm and a neg-hit? I think sarcasm is bad, but is related to a neg-hit. (I have a sarcastic sense of humor, and I’m trying to change that.) If you study Family Relations, they all say to avoid the use of sarcasm. It only hurts relationships long term. How can you make sure that your neg-hit is not just another sarcastic remark that nobody appreciates. What do you do if the girl really is offended at the neg-hit?
I too can be VERY sarcastic (just ask the old timers around here); however, you have to learn to temper the sarcasm with humor. You can deliver the sarcasm, just do it with a smile and a laugh, and try not to be TOO sharp in your delivery.
 

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I'm not tired of the bickering about Wyldfire.

Hell I belong to about 5 other forums that aren't affiliated to SoSuave, and I figure if I keep *****ing about Wyldfire on here I can get banned from every other forum too!!!

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Who wants to be a DJ when you can be so much more?
 

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Wow. Nice post. It's definitely what I needed at this point in my DJ career.
 

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Another incredible post Chance! Just what I needed. And, definitely what newbies need. Way to go!

This was a well thought-out, eloquent post. You gave great information, explanations, and examples. This post could help anyone, including raw beginners, become great at neg-hits. Keep it up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Great post old chap!


Thanks!
 

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What the hell is this post doing on page 4. Bump
 

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... I personally enjoy their bickering...

Anway, beautiful post Sir.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I loved your post!!!! Definately helps break the ice with them snobby bitc*es. I tried a few and i must admit they really work. Thanks man... You just helped me improve my DJ Skills.
 

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Bump, can't forget about this stuff


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~The_Chosen~ has spoken...

"I never hit a woman with her clothes on!"

Judge a man by his questions and not his answers.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is just not an act but a habit." - Aristotle
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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