I do not like living in large cities. (I have been to 26 different countries) both in the military, and for a civil engineering and surveying firm.
I have comittments here that I refuse to abandon. They are my daughters. I knew when we agreed to have them what I was signing up for, and yes they were planned. One week they live with me and one with my ex wife. I would never give up my involvement with them to move somewhere for a "better quality" of woman.
I love my land, my house, my creeks, my fences, my animals, and the fact that if you do not know how to get to my house, you probably will not find it. I wouldnt trade that for a "better quality" of woman.
These things are more important to me than a woman. I have a great career which I can now do largely from home, when I want to.
I enjoy my life. I guess I will just settle for damaged goods, or be single and play the game. Either is fine with me. I spin plates..... Women all of you would do in a heart beat even if they had kids. You just might not stick around once you found out
The thing I have found out is that single women are more understanding when I cannot give them attention because my kids are going to get it first. They do not expect much, and show true gratitude if you decide to do something nice for them. (a door at a platees house would not close without a lot of force. I spent 5 minutes fixing it because it annoyed me. You would have thought I hung the moon)
Them having kids matters far less to me than them having something going for themselves..... something to contribute besides a vagina and extra mouths to feed.
I find it a bit sad that the Mature Mens section of this deginerated into some flaming and name calling. To each their own.