Single mommie laments: is there a huge shortage of single men in their early 40's?

[Ranger]

Yea, it's a shame for the men, and the women know it too. I was at a JFK lounge recently waiting for a flight any.d they had this BS Real Housewives crap on. One of the husbands said once a man is addicted to that pvssy, she's got him. His wife and all of the women agreed. Yowzer. That's all I can say. I then got my drink and went to a different lounge.

What I like doing is getting one to fall in love with my dik. It’s kind of a trade secret but one can. Lol

 

[HankHill]

It all depends on what you're looking for. Generally speaking if you're single you're better off dating single women. If you're looking for fun and getting laid then it doesn't matter who you date. However, it's silly to stereotype and lower your chances of finding a good person. Just like not all blondes, brunettes, single women are created equal, similarly not all single moms are created equal.

Even as a single dad I've mostly only dated single women but based on my personal experiences these are the things that are not generally mentioned on SS:

1. Most single women, even in their early forties! want a family or at the very least want to get married. I want neither so you're either going to lie to her, she'll hope she'll change your mind and either you'll succumb or she'll move on. Most single moms are fine with never getting married again nor having more kids.

2. Single women expect you to give them all your time and attention, even when they knew from the beginning that you're a dad. For me (50/50 custody) this wasn't possible and kids always come first. Single moms on the other hand understand the challenges and are willing to not only work on the logistics together they're eager to actually help you raise your kid and want to give the kids the next best thing to their own complete family.

3. Single moms in my experience have had fewer sex partners. Surprise! Yep, you read that correctly. In fact, the avg was 2-4 guys and these are women in their mid to late thirties. I don't know exactly why this was but from what I gathered they were the committed, old school values type of women. Generally they married their high school sweethearts and stayed married for a long time (8-12yrs).

One of the single mom's I met was the most refreshing woman I've come across in almost 10yrs...ZERO games, very feminine, believes in traditional gender roles, she's financially independent, great/open in bed and wants to try all kinds of things, excellent cook, can sew etc...heck I tried to find reasons to keep my emotions in check but she's definitely one of those type of women who you rarely come across these days.

So my point is that if you're a single dad don't discount single moms because of one or two bad experiences. If that was the case I wouldn't date at all after all the bad experiences with single women lol

 

[AJ84]

Good for you, if the sh!t hits the fan for the marriage, sucks for your husband though. You have him with alimony, asset division and child support on not his on bloodline. You picked well.

No: first husband no lawyers, no ailimony and for the child support I suggested a reduced amount because his family lives in Montreal and our child is close with his mother. The regular drives there several times a year (gas, car expenses etc) were considered so what he doesn’t pay in child support he would use for car upkeep and gas so our child can visit his mother, who doesn’t drive.

Other than him paying half of what he would normally be expected to pay. I get nothing else from him nor do I ask. After school care at 500 a month I pay. I pay for all of her basic needs, summer camps, gifts, entertainment, iPad etc etc.

I bought the condo after we separated and my current husband moved into it. It’s in my name but he could fight for a claim if we divorced because he contributes financially to the bills like hydro, condo fees etc so if we split it could hurt me financially actually.

If you knew me you would know that I have this thing about relying on others for anythjng and it goes back to crap that happened in my childhood so I made sure that I can rely on my own resources always no matter what. It frames my approach to most aspects of my life and hasn’t let me down to much yet lol.

 

[AJ84]

The sad fact is that single mothers have been proven, in general (always exceptions), that children of single mothers end up worse off than their mothers AND follow suit in being single mothers as well. It's a downward spiral. When I was younger, a good 12 + years ago, I dated two single mothers. One, I didn't know the second one was a single mother until after we dated. However, both came from broken homes. The first one's mother had an open relationship marriage where the husband would cheat on the wife left and right. She herself was divorced 2 times by 28. I got rid of her not too long after. Nice t!ts though. Swallowed a load like a champ. The second had come from a family of five, all three daughters were divorced and the mother was divorced twice. In my experience, they're not worth the headache. Decent body, nice a$$, okay t!ts, didn't swallow though. Uncool.

So, swallowing: selling point for the single moms I will pass that on to any single moms I meet . I mean it’s called a dating ‘market’ for a reason right . Gotta sell them on your talents lol:

 

[AJ84]

It all depends on what you're looking for. Generally speaking if you're single you're better off dating single women. If you're looking for fun and getting laid then it doesn't matter who you date. However, it's silly to stereotype and lower your chances of finding a good person. Just like not all blondes, brunettes, single women are created equal, similarly not all single moms are created equal.

Even as a single dad I've mostly only dated single women but based on my personal experiences these are the things that are not generally mentioned on SS:

1. Most single women, even in their early forties! want a family or at the very least want to get married. I want neither so you're either going to lie to her, she'll hope she'll change your mind and either you'll succumb or she'll move on. Most single moms are fine with never getting married again nor having more kids.

2. Single women expect you to give them all your time and attention, even when they knew from the beginning that you're a dad. For me (50/50 custody) this wasn't possible and kids always come first. Single moms on the other hand understand the challenges and are willing to not only work on the logistics together they're eager to actually help you raise your kid and want to give the kids the next best thing to their own complete family.

3. Single moms in my experience have had fewer sex partners. Surprise! Yep, you read that correctly. In fact, the avg was 2-4 guys and these are women in their mid to late thirties. I don't know exactly why this was but from what I gathered they were the committed, old school values type of women. Generally they married their high school sweethearts and stayed married for a long time (8-12yrs).

One of the single mom's I met was the most refreshing woman I've come across in almost 10yrs...ZERO games, very feminine, believes in traditional gender roles, she's financially independent, great/open in bed and wants to try all kinds of things, excellent cook, can sew etc...heck I tried to find reasons to keep my emotions in check but she's definitely one of those type of women who you rarely come across these days.

So my point is that if you're a single dad don't discount single moms because of one or two bad experiences. If that was the case I wouldn't date at all after all the bad experiences with single women lol

Single parents with their sh*t together have no time or patience for neediness and bs drama, I find.

 

[AJ84]

I know that some want to “punish” single moms by not dating them. That never enters into my mind. I don’t care, I’m not going to marry them.
That does not mean I don’t want a great connection and to connect.
It’s just not a standard “relationship” frame.

I honestly don’t get the hatred I mean, when some guy goes on and on trashing single moms I’m like, did a single mom drop you in a well and leave you there to die or something?

I wouldn’t date morbidly obese men, but I don’t make a point of writing demeaning posts about them lol.

I just don’t care about about them, and if some guy doesn’t want to date a single mom, then don’t give a f**k about what single moms get up to because why care? Don’t get it lol.

 

[Ranger]

I honestly don’t get the hatred I mean, when some guy goes on and on trashing single moms I’m like, did a single mom drop you in a well and leave you there to die or something?

I wouldn’t date morbidly obese men, but I don’t make a point of writing demeaning posts about them lol.

I just don’t care about about them, and if some guy doesn’t want to date a single mom, then don’t give a f**k about what single moms get up to because why care? Don’t get it lol.

If she intrigues me and inspires me with her femininity she gets noticed by me.

 

[RickTheToad]

I honestly don’t get the hatred I mean, when some guy goes on and on trashing single moms I’m like, did a single mom drop you in a well and leave you there to die or something?

I wouldn’t date morbidly obese men, but I don’t make a point of writing demeaning posts about them lol.

I just don’t care about about them, and if some guy doesn’t want to date a single mom, then don’t give a f**k about what single moms get up to because why care? Don’t get it lol.

NFN, I just tried a single momma lady, while I was going through my medical stuff, she left for her trip and couldn't care less. Heck, even ex's reached out, which I was surprised. I woke up in the hospital and was amazed that people stopped by. I never asked them too. Yet this one basically left for a trip to her mentor to work on a project for week. So yes, I for one have a bad taste in my mouth. Never met such a cold heartless lady in my life. I guess it is true that perhaps one rotten apple spoils a bunch, but this was a really bad experience.

 

[HankHill]

NFN, I just tried a single momma lady, while I was going through my medical stuff, she left for her trip and couldn't care less. Heck, even ex's reached out, which I was surprised. I woke up in the hospital and was amazed that people stopped by. I never asked them too. Yet this one basically left for a trip to her mentor to work on a project for week. So yes, I for one have a bad taste in my mouth. Never met such a cold heartless lady in my life. I guess it is true that perhaps one rotten apple spoils a bunch, but this was a really bad experience.

I didn't know she was a single mom- definitely a bad apple.

Also remember, people (single, or single moms, men or women) all become jaded/guarded etc after prior bad experiences too. Just like the guy who's been divorced raped, imagine a woman who's been pumped and dumped several times when all she wanted was a LTR with one these guys? She's definitely going to invest less, act cold and heartless. Just like a divorced guy who will run full speed when he hears the word marriage again.

We make all these broad generalizations and jump to conclusions but you just don't know what's going on on the other side too.

 

[AJ84]

Yeaj

NFN, I just tried a single momma lady, while I was going through my medical stuff, she left for her trip and couldn't care less. Heck, even ex's reached out, which I was surprised. I woke up in the hospital and was amazed that people stopped by. I never asked them too. Yet this one basically left for a trip to her mentor to work on a project for week. So yes, I for one have a bad taste in my mouth. Never met such a cold heartless lady in my life. I guess it is true that perhaps one rotten apple spoils a bunch, but this was a really bad experience.

Yeah that was pretty crappy.

 

[kbbroiler1971]

Okay as a single guy who makes an honest living. I'm 47 and turning 48 next year. I've never been married nor do I have kids. I got a vasectomy in 2015 because I already had 2 women who tried to slip one by the goalie. So here is the thing. Single moms in their 40's are collateral damage. They're not even a dating choice and they are not even a relationship choice as I see them. All I see is friends with benefits but never move up in status. I know these women had their way in their 20's and now to have some 400 point check list that I'm going to have to fill to get sex. No thank you. I'll pass. I would rather hire an escort and get my needs met and done before settling with these women in dating or a relationship. Guys I don't know if you ever noticed this. Do you know the speed dating website? Check out women in your area between the ages of 39 to 49. These speed dating sessions by women are always sold out and never sold out for men. I'm from the Toronto area and I've checked this is my area and laughed. Where have all the good men gone eh? It's really comical for these women not seeing that they are the problem of the monster they created and now they are so toxic men want nothing to do with them.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Okay as a single guy who makes an honest living. I'm 47 and turning 48 next year. I've never been married nor do I have kids. I got a vasectomy in 2015 because I already had 2 women who tried to slip one by the goalie. So here is the thing. Single moms in their 40's are collateral damage. They're not even a dating choice and they are not even a relationship choice as I see them. All I see is friends with benefits but never move up in status. I know these women had their way in their 20's and now to have some 400 point check list that I'm going to have to fill to get sex. No thank you. I'll pass. I would rather hire an escort and get my needs met and done before settling with these women in dating or a relationship. Guys I don't know if you ever noticed this. Do you know the speed dating website? Check out women in your area between the ages of 39 to 49. These speed dating sessions by women are always sold out and never sold out for men. I'm from the Toronto area and I've checked this is my area and laughed. Where have all the good men gone eh? It's really comical for these women not seeing that they are the problem of the monster they created and now they are so toxic men want nothing to do with them.

Agree with what you said and the last part had me smile actually, noticed the same thing in basically every country I visited.

They hardly have a 18-25 session since basically no woman would attend, they have a 25-32 one but they cut men subscription fast enough to avoid imbalances, then you get the 32-40 which is somehow balanced but with more women attending then the 40-50 is often suppressed cause they dont find men to attend...

I remember a british site explicitly said that such session was to be removed cause they never managed to get men to join.

 

[RangerMIke]

Not a surprise. Most chicks do not know what they really want.

 

[R.U.G.]

So, swallowing: selling point for the single moms I will pass that on to any single moms I meet . I mean it’s called a dating ‘market’ for a reason right . Gotta sell them on your talents lol:

Yes, very important. Glad I was able to give you some advice to pass on to your sistren.

 

[Spaz]

@R.U.G. you're in my part of the camp now on single mommies.

Why the change of stand ?

 

[Ranger]

They are for fun.

 

[R.U.G.]

@R.U.G. you're in my part of the camp now on single mommies.

Why the change of stand ?

I believe we've always been on the same page on this topic.

 

[Spaz]

I believe we've always been on the same page on this topic.

It must have been someone else then. My bad.

Btw your posts here is impressively spot on.

 

[MatureDJ]

So, swallowing: selling point for the single moms I will pass that on to any single moms I meet . I mean it’s called a dating ‘market’ for a reason right . Gotta sell them on your talents lol:

I have to admit, but I get a nice dose of validation when a fellatee swallows, and a little bit of a letdown she goes to the bathroom to spit out my seed.

 

[Ranger]

So, swallowing: selling point for the single moms I will pass that on to any single moms I meet . I mean it’s called a dating ‘market’ for a reason right . Gotta sell them on your talents lol:

LMAO
Well, nearly all do in my experience. It’s the ones that truly love it that make it good.
Just like anything else.
Yes. AJ. Do let them know that if they love it...they get more appreciation.