Single mommie laments: is there a huge shortage of single men in their early 40's?

[MatureDJ]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/for...ge-shortage-of-single-men-in-their-early-40s/

Since my break up from a 2 yr relationship I've noticed a huge shortage of available quality men in the late 30's- early to mid 40's age group. By quality I don't mean a model, millionaire, surgeon, lawyer with a six pack and a yatch. I mean a normal bloke preferably with kids who I'm attracted to and is a good person.

I've tried the dating sites and have been on a few dates which were ok but not much there.
Any other single mums out there experiencing this apparent man shortage? It seems that any man out there that seems semi decent, can put a sentence together and doesn't have 2 heads is married!!

my opinion: Oh, so it's a bad thing that there aren't more broken men around? That's like me saying my town is depressing because there aren't enough broken windows around. SHEESH!

Here's a gem of a response:

Yep, I swore off men in February after being single for the best part of 6 years. Then found out I was pregnant to the final straw in March. Fun times in this house!

IME they are all really after sex anyway.

Men wanting sex. OH, THE HUMANITY!

And this one:

I ended a relationship with a really nice good man in his early 40's as I felt he was more friend than partner. And I didn't want to hold on to someone just because I think or fear I may never meet anyone again.

So there aren't enough men that feel more like a partner than a "friend".

 

[Who Dares Win]

No emphaty for them, they not only are responsible for their situation, they actually did everything to possible to get there.

 

[AJ84]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/for...ge-shortage-of-single-men-in-their-early-40s/


my opinion: Oh, so it's a bad thing that there aren't more broken men around? That's like me saying my town is depressing because there aren't enough broken windows around. SHEESH!

Here's a gem of a response:


Men wanting sex. OH, THE HUMANITY!

And this one:


So there aren't enough men that feel more like a partner than a "friend".

But half of the responses on that page are from women that have found men and are not complaining.

 

[R.U.G.]

But half of the responses on that page are from women that have found men and are not complaining.

Simps who can't get anything else or liars. Women are the masters of their own imagination.

 

[R.U.G.]

Single moms with children still living with them should know their role. Their roll is for fun for both people and that is it. One cannot really expect a man to take on another man's seed in this day and age. Then again, most single moms are delusional. Hence, they are only for fun while children/teens still live with them. In other words, they are for recreational use only. Welcome to feminism and the 21st century. Now, of course, many single moms ARE delusional and think they are the cats meow, but over time things will not improve for them. Ironically, they may become fat and not keep in shape. Then, well, they become the crazy cat lady once the kids move over.

The lesson here? Single moms = fun and recreational use only. Nothing can be formed with them long term. Reason why? Well, multiple.. Yea, in the beginning they will move things around to seem like they have time for you, but after a few months, they think they locked you down with their pvssy and you're pushed to the back of the line. Many men just fall in line, one's who are just using them for fun, NEXT THEM. That is what is needed. It's not possible for a mother to balance work, child rearing, running a house and a relationship at the same time; it wouldn't be possible for most men or women, so something has to give. The thing that gives is you, the boy toy.

Men, we've all made this mistake, me as well many moons ago. Learn from other's mistakes and just move on. Or, again, if you want to use them for fun or to reduce stress, go for it, just be careful. Many are not on birth control, even if they tell you they are, and would LOVE another spawn. Plus, most are fvcked up in the head anyway due to being used as a rag dog and cannot emotionally bond with a man even if he was a simp and had the best intensions with her. It's just part of the game.

 

[Alvafe]

Single moms with children still living with them should know their role. Their roll is for fun for both people and that is it. One cannot really expect a man to take on another man's seed in this day and age. Then again, most single moms are delusional. Hence, they are only for fun while children/teens still live with them. In other words, they are for recreational use only. Welcome to feminism and the 21st century. Now, of course, many single moms ARE delusional and think they are the cats meow, but over time things will not improve for them. Ironically, they may become fat and not keep in shape. Then, well, they become the crazy cat lady once the kids move over.

The lesson here? Single moms = fun and recreational use only. Nothing can be formed with them long term. Reason why? Well, multiple.. Yea, in the beginning they will move things around to seem like they have time for you, but after a few months, they think they locked you down with their pvssy and you're pushed to the back of the line. Many men just fall in line, one's who are just using them for fun, NEXT THEM. That is what is needed. It's not possible for a mother to balance work, child rearing, running a house and a relationship at the same time; it wouldn't be possible for most men or women, so something has to give. The thing that gives is you, the boy toy.

Men, we've all made this mistake, me as well many moons ago. Learn from other's mistakes and just move on. Or, again, if you want to use them for fun or to reduce stress, go for it, just be careful. Many are not on birth control, even if they tell you they are, and would LOVE another spawn. Plus, most are fvcked up in the head anyway due to being used as a rag dog and cannot emotionally bond with a man even if he was a simp and had the best intensions with her. It's just part of the game.

I would say not even for recreational use, there is enough single woman around to pass on, and these kind like to put men on hops, saying its for the kids best interest, plus if you have any standard, and know what you are doing, single mom will never be on your radar, sure they will want you, but you don't waste time on her, unless if she have a 18 YO daughter you can ask her to get to know her daughter

 

[Ranger]

I don’t care about them.

 

[AJ84]

Single moms with children still living with them should know their role. Their roll is for fun for both people and that is it. One cannot really expect a man to take on another man's seed in this day and age. Then again, most single moms are delusional. Hence, they are only for fun while children/teens still live with them. In other words, they are for recreational use only. Welcome to feminism and the 21st century. Now, of course, many single moms ARE delusional and think they are the cats meow, but over time things will not improve for them. Ironically, they may become fat and not keep in shape. Then, well, they become the crazy cat lady once the kids move over.

The lesson here? Single moms = fun and recreational use only. Nothing can be formed with them long term. Reason why? Well, multiple.. Yea, in the beginning they will move things around to seem like they have time for you, but after a few months, they think they locked you down with their pvssy and you're pushed to the back of the line. Many men just fall in line, one's who are just using them for fun, NEXT THEM. That is what is needed. It's not possible for a mother to balance work, child rearing, running a house and a relationship at the same time; it wouldn't be possible for most men or women, so something has to give. The thing that gives is you, the boy toy.

Men, we've all made this mistake, me as well many moons ago. Learn from other's mistakes and just move on. Or, again, if you want to use them for fun or to reduce stress, go for it, just be careful. Many are not on birth control, even if they tell you they are, and would LOVE another spawn. Plus, most are fvcked up in the head anyway due to being used as a rag dog and cannot emotionally bond with a man even if he was a simp and had the best intensions with her. It's just part of the game.

To each they own. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and I know single women who have no interest in dating single dads.

For me, dating as a single mother I had a few guys say if I wasn’t a single mom they would be interested and that’s fine. Obviously I wasn’t going go to give up my child just to date some guy lol. I had several who tried to make it into a casual thing and I wasn’t interested in that either so I just continued being open to dating on my terms even if it meant I had more limited options, because to me, dating a guy who was using me for sex was not an option so yeah that left a lot of guys out haha. Some of those guys were hot and if I was a different kind of person I would of went for it.

But eventually I met someone who I married.

For me, I had a career, made good money and owned my own home and had an amicable relationship with my ex when I was dating as a single mom. I still have all those things and I think that contributed when he saw that I wasn’t looking for a daddy figure or financial assistance and had my sh*t together, and I’m pretty laid back and chill.

I can understand why some guys would be deterred but I don’t think all single mothers are the same. Not saying you guys should now marry single mothers, just pointing out the generalization.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I can sympathize. Often I find myself in a high end grocery with $2.78 and I just can't find any decent ready made meals for under $2.

It's like there's some kind of conspiracy or something. It's not like I'm looking for caviar or anything. Just a decent sandwich, some fries and maybe a chocolate milkshake. Is that so much to ask?

By quality I don't mean a model, millionaire, surgeon, lawyer with a six pack and a yatch.

what the mother fck is a yatch?

like a latch? A match? some kind of fancy australian watch? Something to do with a koala?

 

[R.U.G.]

To each they own. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and I know single women who have no interest in dating single dads.

For me, dating as a single mother I had a few guys say if I wasn’t a single mom they would be interested and that’s fine. Obviously I wasn’t going go to give up my child just to date some guy lol. I had several who tried to make it into a casual thing and I wasn’t interested in that either so I just continued being open to dating on my terms even if it meant I had more limited options, because to me, dating a guy who was using me for sex was not an option so yeah that left a lot of guys out haha. Some of those guys were hot and if I was a different kind of person I would of went for it.

But eventually I met someone who I married.

For me, I had a career, made good money and owned my own home and had an amicable relationship with my ex when I was dating as a single mom. I still have all those things and I think that contributed when he saw that I wasn’t looking for a daddy figure or financial assistance and had my sh*t together, and I’m pretty laid back and chill.

I can understand why some guys would be deterred but I don’t think all single mothers are the same. Not saying you guys should now marry single mothers, just pointing out the generalization.

Good for you, if the sh!t hits the fan for the marriage, sucks for your husband though. You have him with alimony, asset division and child support on not his on bloodline. You picked well.

 

[R.U.G.]

The sad fact is that single mothers have been proven, in general (always exceptions), that children of single mothers end up worse off than their mothers AND follow suit in being single mothers as well. It's a downward spiral. When I was younger, a good 12 + years ago, I dated two single mothers. One, I didn't know the second one was a single mother until after we dated. However, both came from broken homes. The first one's mother had an open relationship marriage where the husband would cheat on the wife left and right. She herself was divorced 2 times by 28. I got rid of her not too long after. Nice t!ts though. Swallowed a load like a champ. The second had come from a family of five, all three daughters were divorced and the mother was divorced twice. In my experience, they're not worth the headache. Decent body, nice a$$, okay t!ts, didn't swallow though. Uncool.

 

[Ranger]

I know that some want to “punish” single moms by not dating them. That never enters into my mind. I don’t care, I’m not going to marry them.
That does not mean I don’t want a great connection and to connect.
It’s just not a standard “relationship” frame.

 

[Dash Riprock]

I'm over 40 and I can tell you 100% definitively this is BS.

The women complaining are the unattractive ones and/or the ones that just have not kept in shape. The attractive women, 35-45, on OLD are getting hit up with 100's of messages per week, so don't tell me there aren't any men of similar age out there. Some of the women on OLD have such finite criteria they don't even accept messages if you don't meet certain requirements, meaning you cannot even send them a message, the app blocks you.

I've been hit up with nasty messages because I haven't replied to women who are 50+, crinkled and out of shape, lol.

Maybe if some of the women actually took care of themselves and loosened up their "checklists" they wouldn't have this problem.

 

[R.U.G.]

I know that some want to “punish” single moms by not dating them. That never enters into my mind. I don’t care, I’m not going to marry them.
That does not mean I don’t want a great connection and to connect.
It’s just not a standard “relationship” frame.

No one, man or woman, should be punished. However, it's a red flag and it's going to be hard to deal with her child rearing issues. Children will always come first, then career, the house, the bills, Rover the dog, Garfield the cat and then the man... Maybe. It's not worth the headache even for some relief. Life is complicated enough without bringing another persons extreme baggage into the mix. Try it out and this is a big issue. Could it work? Sure, even a clock is right twice a day. The question is why would a man voluntarily put themselves through a losing proposition? If a man already has a child, maybe, but a single bro, no worth the headache or heartache.

 

[R.U.G.]

I'm over 40 and I can tell you 100% definitively this is BS. The women complaining are the unattractive ones and/or the ons that just have not kept in shape. The attractive women, 35-45, on OLD are getting hit up with 100's of messages per week, so don't tell me there aren't any men of similar age out there. Some of the women on OLD have such finite criteria they don't even accept messages if you don't meet certain requirements, meaning you cannot even send them a message, the app blocks you.

I've been hit up with nasty messages because I haven't replied to women who are 50+, crinkled and out of shape, lol.

Maybe if some of the women actually took care of themselves and loosened up their "Checklists" they wouldn't have this problem.

Still not worth it though. You have an oops and she has a kiddo, 21+ years of child support. Single moms always are looking for another kid.

 

[Ranger]

No one, man or woman, should be punished. However, it's a red flag and it's going to be hard to deal with her child rearing issues. Children will always come first, then career, the house, the bills, Rover the dog, Garfield the cat and then the man... Maybe. It's not worth the headache even for some relief. Life is complicated enough without bringing another persons extreme baggage into the mix. Try it out and this is a big issue. Could it work? Sure, even a clock is right twice a day. The question is why would a man voluntarily put themselves through a losing proposition? If a man already has a child, maybe, but a single bro, no worth the headache or heartache.

True. I would just not allow the baggage to infringe on me. If that takes three single moms...then alright.
The other aspect of this is that I wouldn’t demand time together. When it works, it works.
I don’t expect too much from women. Her version of feminine works for me.
It’s just way too easy to move on.

 

[R.U.G.]

True. I would just not allow the baggage to infringe on me. If that takes three single moms...then alright.
The other aspect of this is that I wouldn’t demand time together. When it works, it works.
I don’t expect too much from women. Her version of feminine works for me.
It’s just way too easy to move on.

Very true, but when I know a few bros that went the single mom route and things are fine for a month or two where they come to service them once or twice a week. Then, all of a sudden, that slows. One bro I know hasn't seen his single mom that he was seeing for many months in like two or three weeks; yet she converses with him daily. I told him to step back... You're too available and giving her too much non-sexual attention. It seems he's hooked a bit. Not sure if he has the ability to step away. This is all too common on the boards.

 

[Dash Riprock]

I know guys who have LTRs and even marry women with kids from prior marriages. Beta as f*uck. Seriously. Spending your best man years raising another woman's kids and someone else's DNA, we'll, I just can't wrap my arms around that. Betas will do it though, easily. I've f*uckd a lot of single moms, but for sport. And I'm upfront that I don't want a gf or LTR so they know what they're getting into. Some disappear which is fine. I'm sure Beta Male Provider came along with his checkbook and big house and she wants to cash in. She buys into it until she gets bored, because he's weak as fu*ck, is bad at s*ex, a yes-man, etc., so them she cashed out and starts the cycle all over again: She's attracted to alpha/DJ, he won't commit, Beta man woos her, she buys in, gets bored, dumps him, hooks up with DJ, he won't commit, etc.

OLD and especially SB/SD sites are chalked full of alpha widows and single moms who "got bored" with Mr. Nice Guy.

 

[Ranger]

Very true, but when I know a few bros that went the single mom route and things are fine for a month or two where they come to service them once or twice a week. Then, all of a sudden, that slows. One bro I know hasn't seen his single mom that he was seeing for many months in like two or three weeks; yet she converses with him daily. I told him to step back... You're too available and giving her too much non-sexual attention. It seems he's hooked a bit. Not sure if he has the ability to step away. This is all too common on the boards.

Exactly. He got sucked into it. Lol
You gave him good advice.
Controlling emotions is an acquired skill. To do it without ruining the possibly of a really great intimate connection is definitely beyond the skills of many men.

Women can turn it on and off and a man really needs to take note of this and realize that it’s possible for a man to change his mind.
After all, it’s really about changing one’s mind.

 

[R.U.G.]

Exactly. He got sucked into it. Lol
You gave him good advice.
Controlling emotions is an acquired skill. To do it without ruining the possibly of a really great intimate connection is definitely beyond the skills of many men.

Women can turn it on and off and a man really needs to take note of this and realize that it’s possible for a man to change his mind.
After all, it’s really about changing one’s mind.

Yea, it's a shame for the men, and the women know it too. I was at a JFK lounge recently waiting for a flight any.d they had this BS Real Housewives crap on. One of the husbands said once a man is addicted to that pvssy, she's got him. His wife and all of the women agreed. Yowzer. That's all I can say. I then got my drink and went to a different lounge.