"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm seeing a girl that has a 5 year old and an 8 month old and I'm looking for some ideas of what to do with her when she's got her kids with her. I dont want any BS about single moms either, just ideas of what we can do when she's got her kids with her. We go to parks a lot and that's fun but I'm at a loss for other things to do out of the house. Not ideal I know, but I appreciate any ideas
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Basketball, tag, hide n seek, soccer, football, baseball, ride bikes... That help? Or do you mean something more specific.
 

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Don't do it Sorry had to say it. Had experience with a single mom and it didn't work out. Well when I was involved I took the kid and her to a pizza joint with arcades and games where you get tickets and win prizes. We did that a lot or simply McDonald's and the kid could play in the play pin.
 

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chuck e cheese

take her to Chuck E Cheese and play the games with the kids. win as many tickets as you can but then give them to the kid. you'll both have fun and you'll look like a prince.
 

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WhitePimp said:
I dont want any BS about single moms either, just ideas of what we can do when she's got her kids with her.
You are going to get an advice not B.S! B.S is when you act like a chump and are looking for an advice that won't change your situation for the better because you are stuborn and as result you are settling for mediocracy. To settle for medicocracy you don't need sosuave.

When she has her kids with her, its her kids time not yours! so go spin those plates in between instead of settling for a single mommy who has no time for you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well i feel the kid is very important in the relationship, so if the kid has a crappy time that is going to effect u, but if kid has good time then looks hell lot good on u, when they are asking next time ur going to take there mom out. So bowling is pretty good seeing all of u can play (besides 8 month year old lol maybe)- best thing for taking out single moms in my opinion.

Other options take her to the park something like picnic maybe, so 5 yr old can go play on swings whatever (u already mentioned parks but its good choice). U can have dinner in place maybe like frankie and bennys or pizza hut, that is also pretty good, they provide crayons and notebook usually. Arcade is usually fun for everyone has well. Once u go out on few dates then maybe u can suggest something specifically for kid like u get this big kind of net thing with loads of balls inside it where u sink in...u know what i am talking about lol.
 

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Let me tell you something. Any woman who let's you hang around her kids and she just met you has no respect for men, she has no respect for her children nor for herself. She doesn't respect her child's mind, the image her child is seeing about how men and women and relationships work. You could be anyone. She makes poor choices based on her selfishness. A real woman wouldn't let you around her kids until she was sure of you. She doesn't respect the child's image of their father. Men are easily replaceable? That's the message we send to our children?

She should be willing to respect her children enough and want to see you enough to make plans to see you alone. For everyone's sake. And don't go giving me that crap about its hard for a single mother...well then she should have thought about that before she became a single mother.

I'm starting to lean towards not dating any single mothers period. It's not worth it. I don't want any more kids and I don't want to raise another man's child.
 

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Well, minus the whole don't date a single-mum spiel. (I am anti-single-mum and a little bit anti-kid). Just flip the five year old around and hold him upside down by his ankles. Kids seem to love it. Other than that zoos, children's museums, the beach when it gets warmer. Tons of things you can do with kids, just act like a kid yourself when playing with them and you'll have loads of fun.
 

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Taken from another forum:

Kill her children
I can't stress how important it is to kill off her children (not literally of course). Years ago if a male mated with a female and he abandon her or died, her child would immediately be killed by the new alpha male. The reason for this should be obvious, you don't want waste your resources raising another males mistake. If she has a kid and no daddy (jail, abandon, drug addict, etc) you knows shes a dumb ***** who has been gamed by an alpha male. Let her trade sex for companionship, fool her by playing daddy the 2nd then leaving her once you've done your deed. Very simple strategy.

Warrior74 said:
I'm starting to lean towards not dating any single mothers period. It's not worth it. I don't want any more kids and I don't want to raise another man's child.
 

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Chill out guys, I've been friends with her for a year and we just started hooking up a few weeks ago. It's not like I'm a total stranger. Plus I like her and I like her kids, so that's pretty much that.

For the guys who can actually read and suggested what I asked for in this thread, thanks for the suggestions. Most were kind of what I was thinking as well, but it's always good to hear more. Zoo and bowling definitely, they're fun as hell but I probably would never go to them without a kid there.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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