Single, Happy, but little to no sex

[Mike32ct]

I think some guys take the “be aloof / DGAF/ don’t simp / don’t be creepy / be independent/ have your own busy life” advice to the extreme such that they don’t even try.

I’m not referring to the OP. Just a general observation.

 

[Bokanovsky]

When you're at peace with yourself, living well alone, but missing sex, what do you do?

After 30, especially at that stage, most women are busy, focused on having children.

Everyone wants LTR, so it's impossible to find one simply to maintain a relationship, each in their own home, no cohabitation, just fun and sex, with exclusivity.

In this case, how do you find such a woman?

Remember those memes where you can only get 2 out of 3? (i.e. Smart, Attractive, Sane - pick two). Unfortunately, life is usually like that. Sounds like you already have your 2 out of 3. Nothing will mess with your inner peace and ability to live well alone like a woman. So you have to decide what's more important to you.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Try OLD apps like Feeld.
Or Hinge and select “casual dating”.
There’s a % of women out there that want a FWB situationship.

otherwise pay for it at Massage parlours with Asian chicks.

otherwise get into the kink / swinger community.. and doubleteam some dudes wife.

Obvs paying for it is the most straightforward and time effective way.

 

[Pumax]

I go hustle up some talent. Fire up the dating apps. Hit the bars. Go to parties. Be Social. Hang out with people. Whatever it takes. Stop over thinking it. Boots on the ground son! If she is hot and fun, then you are down. Worry about the fall out later.



And no, not everone wants a LTR. You are putting the horse in front of the cart, thinking too much. First she has to prove herself. You shut that down right when she starts that talk.



And you have to stop with this after 30 women are focused on children b.s. I have spent half of the last 30 years living by myself with all the perks women can provide and that's another manufactured road block you have created in your head.



The women that are the easiest to get for the type of relationship you are talking about are women that are divorced house wives who get a fat check from their rich exhusbands. Also the more independent women who have high level careers and make good money are always down for this type of relationship. A few nurses who work a lot of hours are good choices too. I've had all 3 types. Seek out strong, independent types that have their own stockpile of financial security. They will tolerate less commitment and more independence for longer periods than the weaker, sweeter, more submissive types that aren't flush with cash.



A lot of you guys aren't aggressive enough. You don't take the risks. Afraid to live life on your own terms. Risk takers and boundary pushers get rewarded most often with money, power and pu$$y.



More testosterone, less estrogen. You guys are killing me reading all of this drivel.

Interesting, why don't you tell us more where you met these women, and what kind of relationship you had with them?
It may be helpful to share more closely your experience of what you did with them and what kind of boundaries the relationship had

 

[Pumax]

Or Hinge and select “casual dating”.

This is a curiosity, I always thought that by simply putting "serious or short relationship" you would have more matches, compared to the party girls you can meet if you only put "casual dating"