Single GUY for the past 8 years wants to join Salsa to get Girl

[aforabi]

Hi DJs,

I am starting to feel great after joining this forum. There are loads of killer information that will help my love life get better.

My stats : Single for the past 8 years. No GFs.

Recent improvements: Quit smoking, alcohol, porn, and anything bad. One of the reason why I got motivated to join this forum is that I genuinely want to improve my life, including my love life, which is non-existent now.

I understand that I do NOT want to live a single life any more. I have been thinking about joining a Salsa class where I could meet women on a regular basis. This way, I'll be more interactive with women and any shyness that's there should soon vanish away.

My question: What are your thoughts on me joining Salsa? What should be my mindset? Have fun? Enjoy the dance, or the chicks? Go out with new chick every week and get to know more about them? I do NOT want to settle unless I find the 'right' girl. Any thoughts, comments, please reply!

 

[Mike32ct]

I do ballroom, but am somewhat familiar with salsa.

I think it's a fantastic idea. You'll never hear me discourage anyone from learning dance.

As for mindset, definitely take it seriously and work hard to get good at it. But also enjoy the dance itself. Don't focus on the chicks per se. But still be friendly.

The reason I say this is because it is a social circle of sorts so your reputation is VERY important.

GOOD:

The guy who watches/listens carefully to what the teacher says and tries his best to do the patterns correctly. He's detail-oriented, practices regularly, and tries to fix errors. He's friendly with the ladies, but isn't a "man on a pickup mission at the club" lol.

BAD:

The guy who is only there for chicks. He just laughs off his dance mistakes. "It's only a dance class so it's not to be taken seriously. It's not a real class." He's flirting with chicks and talking while the teacher is trying to teach.

 

[RagingBalls]

I agree with the above post by Mike, and i'm 99.9% sure the master DJ's here will agree as well with him that your main focus should be in learning the salsa dance itself.

Here is also my two cents,

-Enroll in that Dance school with a goal to learn that dance and put your focus in it while you're inside the school.

-Aspire to be adept at it, or very good dancing salsa.

You're motivation would be the rewards you'll reap once you had become skilled with it, like you'll attract women once they see how finesse you move in a dance floor of a club or social gathering. Who knows, You might also be the next guy to represent your place/country in a world dance olympics from your efforts and dedication...and that's just one of the long list of rewards you'll get if you focused enough and aspire to be a great dancer.

Enroll to a Dance School to meet women = you'll meet many of them on a regular basis, you might date a few here and then but that's just it.

Enroll to a Dance School and became best/adept at it = Women in your dance community would be enthusiastic to meet you as well as women who heard about you.

 

[aforabi]

I do ballroom, but am somewhat familiar with salsa.

I think it's a fantastic idea. You'll never hear me discourage anyone from learning dance.

As for mindset, definitely take it seriously and work hard to get good at it. But also enjoy the dance itself. Don't focus on the chicks per se. But still be friendly.

The reason I say this is because it is a social circle of sorts so your reputation is VERY important.

GOOD:

The guy who watches/listens carefully to what the teacher says and tries his best to do the patterns correctly. He's detail-oriented, practices regularly, and tries to fix errors. He's friendly with the ladies, but isn't a "man on a pickup mission at the club" lol.

BAD:

The guy who is only there for chicks. He just laughs off his dance mistakes. "It's only a dance class so it's not to be taken seriously. It's not a real class." He's flirting with chicks and talking while the teacher is trying to teach.

Wow, thanks Mike ... you have given me good reasons to join the Salsa class. I am very thankful for your suggestion - i.e. focus on improving the dance and enjoy it and do it for myself, not for the sake of meeting women or getting laid.

I agree, if I get good/best at it, chicks will notice it and find me sexy and come to me ... sooner or later. The best part is that i am VERY PATIENT and AMBITIOUS, although I am quiet and shy about expressing it out openly. But with those two key guidance, I now have a good reason why I must look at Salsa in a different and more positive perspective.

Thanks Mike ... so MUCH

 

[aforabi]

Here is also my two cents,

-Enroll in that Dance school with a goal to learn that dance and put your focus in it while you're inside the school.

-Aspire to be adept at it, or very good dancing salsa.

:rockon: :rockon: :rockon:

Thanks RagingBalls,

You and Mike both gave me the 'right' mindset that should make me happy in the long run. Often times, we get started for wrong reasons - for example, I started gym to attract women. But later, I found that going to gym 3 days a week is a discipline. I think, same applies to anything else in the world, including Salsa classes. I will definitely focus on improving on my dance moves and one day, become popular enough so that HOT chicks wanna be with me ...

Thanks for your advice. Really appreciate it. :rockon:

 

[Mike32ct]

OP: I'm really happy and excited for you.

Listen to plenty of salsa music. Get the rhythm of salsa songs into your head.
The other important thing is having the right studio and the right teacher. You'll know if it's the right place for you. The point isn't to impress women. It's for YOU to shine and make yourself and your instructor(s) proud. Women will be impressed on their own. But you got the idea.

To everybody else, I think this is sound advice for any activity. Get reay good at it. I don't care if its dance, learning a musical instrument, learning a foreign language, martial arts, a sport, or collecting rocks lol. Don't half arse it or "dabble" in it. Learn it well.

It's rewarding and will make you a better man.

People at work have wanted to get me into golf, tennis, shooting pool, hiking, kayaking, etc. Nothing wrong with any of those, but I had no interest so I didn't bother. But when someone suggested ballroom dance, the lightbulb lit up in my head. I was like, "Hey I can totally picture myself doing that." That's how I got started.