single forever...

[kutbaf]

Hey guys,

so, I can't seem to attract girls, or i always seem to lose the attraction. Usually things start off well with a girl, but in every situation they always lose interest, and i get the feeling i just annoy them, or whatever.
It is horribly frustrating. How can I found out what I am doing wrong?

thanks

 

[betheman]

How old are you? give us some background? looks personality, job/student?

 

[Berlex]

forever alone

 

[kutbaf]

well, i'm 20 years old, a third-year archaeology student, i work part-time in a supermarket in the fresh goods section. i am an enthusiastic person, and i basically go around doing whatever i like (i often get called interesting, or weird, but in a good way). i like talking about tons of things, and can go on about a subject for hours. I can sometimes be a little bit withdrawn, or a bit daydreamy, like when i've got my music on.

well, as for looks, here's a pic: http://img704.imageshack.us/img704/6826/img2722o.jpg
I also work out regularly (cardio every morning, chest exercises in the afternoon) both to feel and be healthy, and of course to look good.

 

[terran2k]

"forever stallone"

 

[hansol]

Forever calzone

 

[synergy1]

forever carl malone. da AIRMAN

 

[The Mad Ghost]

Feelsbadman.

Forever a knome.

 

[SharinganUser]

Forever Al Capone

 

[Warrior74]

Boner Stabone

 

[MurdocNiccals]

Girls lose interest after a little while if the dynamic is tipped too much in their favour, i.e. you are trying too hard to impress them. Also you should take things up a notch ASAP, however you are most comfortable doing it, be it through real life or through a phonecall, or through a screen with words on it.

 

[st_99]

you're 20

trust me

don't worry about it.

 

[Huffman]

Looks are ok. Generally if your looks are not HORRIBLE then you can get some.

You say things start off well, so you passed the looks test already. Rest is about mindset I would say... read some of the stuff flying around here.
"I can't attract girls" is not very specific, and it's what everybody says when they get here

 

[kutbaf]

Looks are ok. Generally if your looks are not HORRIBLE then you can get some.

You say things start off well, so you passed the looks test already. Rest is about mindset I would say... read some of the stuff flying around here.
"I can't attract girls" is not very specific, and it's what everybody says when they get here

yeah, i can understand, it's just so frustrating not knowing where the **** it goes wrong

 

[S0LID]

Buy a new shirt and get a haircut.

 

[Huffman]

yeah, i can understand, it's just so frustrating not knowing where the **** it goes wrong

If you have no idea, then read some material on how attraction works. Book of Pook is good. It's the perfect newbie reading. Also Senor Fingers is good. Once you know recognize what went wrong you can start working on it.

Bout the looks: you can definitely make it more clean, you look kind of unkempt, maybe shave off the stubble. Stubbly really only looks good if it's short and dense, not long and sparse. As undergraduate student you can get away with messy hair, but in the long run you might think about it
But it's not THAT bad. If you feel self conscious about it, change, otherwise keep it.

Better work on your mind.

 

[TheManOfSteel]

Buy a new shirt and get a haircut.

Took the words right out of my mouth. ^This.

 

[RSanders219]

what's wrong with being single man? You can date multiple women at once and it's not a big deal! haha. You just gotta chat up some girls at your school and before you know it you'll be able to get multiple dates per week. Trust me dude, i've been down the path of feeling sorry for myself and all that bull.. Didn't go on one date for a year and a half or get any action whatsoever, but I read a lot on this site and in such a short time (maybe 2 months) I've all ready been talking to multiple girls at once. It's all in the attitude just be confident and collected. And definitely read all the DJ bible has to offer!