Single Dad DJ's?

[PokerInTheRear]

I've seen many posts about single mom's lately... As a single dad (50%) of the time, I don't see all single moms as non-ltr material. I do agree that some aren't worth the trouble.

It's a strange place... Family man / dad one week, then switch into poon-hunting dj mode the next, but somehow it works well for me.

Any other single-dads? I've noticed its more difficult to work the younger single woman with no kids because of my situation, but not impossible.

Anyone else have similar situation? Insights?

 

[Nemic]

I'm still fresh/new to the self improvement DJ journey, and I have a 2yr old 50% of the time. I'm still dealing with the I'm a 50% single parent thing as a whole, but can relate.

I have not found it very natural to bring up the fact I have a kid in conversations with women that do not know that detail yet, but I'll get there as my game matures. It really feels like my "game" mode is a different person then my "dad" mode.

I have not had any true "success" yet with any women, but mostly due to my lack of escalating (AFC tendencies). Its interesting that two of my current prospects have had LTRs with single dads in the recent past. One is mid-late 20s, other is early 20s. As someone else pointed out to me, long as you are still "viable" financially you have chances with most of them.

I think personally it depends on what they want. If they just want to have 'fun' then they won't care. If they are looking for LTR, they might not care if they know you are a good parent. Seems win-win to me.

I've made a few rules for myself.
1. Kid is always priority over dates.
2. Women will not get to meet my kid unless they are LTR.
3. I will not put my life on hold cause I have a kid. I will date during the other 50% time.

 

[sodbuster]

It's easy to date, just hard to find one I'd want to bother with. I have 2 sons,don't need more kids etc. just go out on the weekends I don't have them. Since they drive, they've met some of the women I date just by showing up on the days I don't have them[even came over during the act once-door was closed and they knew better than open it]

 

[DropZone3]

I have been a single for over five months, and I do find dating more challenging. I have my two young children from Thursday through Monday. I am going to give online dating a shot to expand where I can meet women. Anyway, I am not in hurry to find another woman as I am really enjoying the freedom to be single again.

 

[Nemic]

The biggest problem I am having right now is finding time to keep things rolling with different prospects.

I have limited time each week to actually do any real dating. I've exploded my freetime with volleyball, and while that is keeping me more then entertained, but leaving me with 1-2 days a week where I can "date" when I don't have parental duties. Add in working out, getting 8 hrs of sleep, and other life to do's, I'm finding my time is actually quite valuable.

 

[Desdinova]

I have my two young children from Thursday through Monday.

That's identical to the situation I'm in. I'm a SD 50% of the time, and my child-free days are NOT prime nights to go out sarging. All the good nights to go out are spent with my kid.

As for bringing up the fact that I have a kid, I found it works better to raise her IL first, then bring up the fact that you're a dad. If her IL is high, she won't give a damn that you have a kid. If her IL is medium to low, it can be the deal-breaker.

The main woman I'm dating it completely child-less. I almost feel guilty for dating women who have no kids because they could easily have that opportunity with someone else. I've had a vasectomy and I don't want more kids.

If she's got one kid (maybe two), that's fine. If she's got 3 or more kids, that's a deal-breaker. I'm not going to rent a school bus just to take everyone to the fvcking zoo.