"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Simple Self-Improvement Formula

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L+S+G= W

Looks + Social Proof + Game = Women

Rate yourself in each area and prioritize where you should be focusing your improvement efforts. I guarantee you that if you are above average in each category you will pull ~50% of chicks out there.

Obviously my formula is subjective and a bit vague, but a good point of reference if you are in a slump and have no idea why you aren't attracting women.

If you have no clue where you stand in each 3 areas, establish some benchmarks:

For looks, ask your friends and random people (preferably girls) to objectively rate you and take the average.

For social proof, I would count the number of qualityfriends you hang out with at least once a month. (no fat, video-game playing losers)

Game can be measured by success rate of sarging. i.e. ratio of numbers/approaches, dates/numbers, f*cks/dates, or whatever based on your goals.

You can create your own metrics you wish to work with, and get as granular as you want, but this gives you a general starting point on the path to becoming the MAN (not that stupid new Samuel L. Jackson movie)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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50% seeems extremely high, but decent post overall
 

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personal game is missing? Self-improvement has so much more to do with improving yourself in every aspect of your life. It is important that you do this. Otherwise women just prove as validation and that isn't self-improvement, that is AFC-ism in reverse.

Improve yourself before improving your stable of women. Better for you to do this because it is much easier. 75% of women you will be able to pickup if you improve yourself.

Either lower your standards or up your standards inside yourself. I chose the latter instead of the former. What will you choose?
 

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Originally posted by comic_relief
personal game is missing? Self-improvement has so much more to do with improving yourself in every aspect of your life. It is important that you do this. Otherwise women just prove as validation and that isn't self-improvement, that is AFC-ism in reverse.

Improve yourself before improving your stable of women. Better for you to do this because it is much easier. 75% of women you will be able to pickup if you improve yourself.

Either lower your standards or up your standards inside yourself. I chose the latter instead of the former. What will you choose?
That didn't make much sense, but here's my response:

Are you saying I am missing "inner game"? Game in this little formula includes inner game. Going out and meeting women, gettting numbers/dates, etc... gives you the confidence to be comfortable in any situation, which allows you to control your emotions better.
 

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Originally posted by Broham
That didn't make much sense, but here's my response:

Are you saying I am missing "inner game"? Game in this little formula includes inner game. Going out and meeting women, gettting numbers/dates, etc... gives you the confidence to be comfortable in any situation, which allows you to control your emotions better.
What I mean is that you need to improve yourself, not just with women, but in every aspect of your life. You should become a much better and more rounded individual. When you do this, you will gain confidence in many other areas of your life. If you improve just on women alone then it will not get you anything but women. Women will eventually dry up but you are forever. Don't forget that.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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