Silly Quick Question...

[Walking Anomaly]

Hey all hows life

great

Anyway, quick silly question... This girl im seeing, been hangin out n stuff, messin around. Were good i think but she is conflicted wit her feelins for me cuz i ditched her for a while to be alone, wanted to play the field some more. Anyway we get to talkin again and chillen...now i see shes got this status on her aim that shes "bummed." Since shes conflicted wit me i was wonderin if it would be a good or bad idea to be the one to cheer her up despite her confliction. i called her yesterday unaware she was at work n she didnt answer, but txtd immediately after to say wats up, made her feel good. So....to cheer her up or not to cheer up considerin her confliction and me talkin to her jus yesterday for maybe 10 mins. That is the question.Unsure y its messin wit me but jus thought id ask. Now that i think im probably overanalyzin lol, but watever

Let me kno

peace all...

 

[cockerdumbnuts]

I'm about to leave work so I have to be short here.

1. Don't try to cheer her up. That’s what friends do, not lovers. This is an easy way to get LJBF.

2. You want her to associate you with good feelings, not bad one. So make sure you're around when fun is going on and she feels good. One the flip side don't be around when she is all bummed. You want her to think of you and only good time. For further explanation of this read Get Anyone To Do Anything by Lieberman.

Hope this helped.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Thanks a lot bud...yea i had to be brief for i was leavin work too...ill check that out.

Is it plausible for her to LJBF me even tho weve already established that we are sexually interested in each other?...i mean shes got conflicted feelins about me but we hit the sheets not 3 days ago and she ate it up..

peace

 

[Walking Anomaly]

bump

 

[cockerdumbnuts]

yeah, girls will change their mind in a sec. I had a hot girl that I was laying the mean D to, but I didn't play my cards right. She tried to LJBF me by saying that she likes having guys friends that she can kick it with and even sleep in their bed without the pressure of having sex.

Keep your game tight. Once you fall in love you are the guy to help comfort her. Until then keep your relationship fun and sexual.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Yep...i checked out that book you spoke about and it had some great stuff. So for now im layin back, dont want to associate with her bad feelings by seeing her when shes "bummed"... Ill either wait until i hear shes in better spirits, or throw her a call to do somethin fun.

Let me kno if you got anymore books to try or tips...thanks bud

WA

 

[cockerdumbnuts]

You powered through that book already? Among all the other community books that everyone preaches, I also tend to read general self help. Pulling your Own Strings by Dyer is another excellent read.

 

[Charm&Style]

A. You don't want to be the shoulder she needs to lean on every time her estrogen levels are unbalanced.

B. What are your goals with her? I advise you to ditch being in a relationship because there are no benefits whatsoever and aim and having her in your bullpen.

C. Men need to stop over-thinking/over-analyzing what women do. At then end of the day men can easily live single and get more a$$ than a toilet seat while women know that their biological time clock is ticking and their value is rolling down a steep slope.

If this girl is worth anything at all to you well than spit your game and enjoy the ride. If this girl is the type that you know will occupy space in your head preventing you from enjoying the wonders of life because her aim status says "omg hes sooo hot.." and you get jealous over it then move on.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

A. No problems there she knows im not here for her to emotionally bleed on whenever shes upset.

B. Im interested in something more...Why advise to ditch being in relationship?

C. i know, Doing so only hurts your chances, doesnt help. Im workin on spinnin some plates so i dont do it any longer.

and I agree, however i was asking to see whether it was a good idea to see her when shes "bummed" and may associate me with the bummed feeling from then on - not that it bothered me that she was bummed.

Anythin else let me know..

WA

 

[Charm&Style]

If you are the reason for her feeling bummed and you're certain of it then yes, you can meet up and have a good outcome. If you do decide to meet up do not go over any issues that you "may" have done that have "bummed" her or any sort of action that will link to her bummed feeling. Focus your game on a more senshual/sexual perspective. Tease her lightly, get her in the mood for a good time, pretty much do your thing that got her interested in you in the first place.

If you see that she is totally killing the mood and being a d1ck-killer then tell her straight forwardly that your time together is not very enjoyable and that you guys should go out when she is not so "bummed".

Now if the girl is bummed from another issue that has no regards to you then save yourself a horrible night and just call her later on when she is at a balanced stage in life.

Remember that dating is porking and if you are not going to get any sort of satisfaction from your date then there is no point in going on one.

As far as relationships are considered i see no reason in why you would want to be in one when you know that it is temporary. You can get laid w/o being in one. Are you willing to go through all the immature projections women (in almost all age groups) throw at you, to go through hours of nagging, hrs of gossip in which you don't give a crap about, or have to worry about whats being said to her by other predators (us guys in general) over facebook/myspace/email/voicemail/chat/etc just so you can get some tail?

Relationships should only be considered if you have met a girl that meets ALL your expectations and you are willing to get serious up to the point of considering marriage with her and placing yours and her trust on the table in not engaging in sort of "tease-play" activity with the opposite sex.

If you are a serious student you dont need a relationship. If you have high goals planned for yourself dont get yourself into a relationship till you have obtained those goals. If you are broke you dont need a relationship. etc etc