You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah...I think the fact he put so much effort in and kept texting and emailing about his "empire," kind of burned him.backbreaker said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"Look, we understood we couldn't make it illegal to be young or poor or black in the United States, but we could criminalize their common pleasure. We understood that drugs were not the health problem we were making them out to be, but it was such a perfect issue... that we couldn't resist it."Jaylan said:
Deep Dish said:
The American Civil Liberties Union report on disproportionate drug arrests, along with the White House sources, along with the corporate private for-profit prison industry, should be adequate evidence of probable cause.TyTe`EyEz said:
You should click on my name to see my profile pic before making such an assumption. I don’t intend to get into further discussion.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Speaking of that:Deep Dish said:
Because drugs are bad, mmmmkay.Jaylan said:
Huh??? I guess you missed that day of class in 8th grade or 12th grade government. Dude, the Department of Justice isn't an extension of the government, it is a part of the government. The DOJ is a law enforcement agency.Steady Eddie said:
No....it wasn't the kids' fault for smoking heroine and spice, it was the dealers, because I'm sure he put a gun to their head and forced them to go online and buy his stuff. Not to mention that yes, it's true, use Silk Road and you don't have to f*ck with street dealers, which makes it safer.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well the deep dark web is the basis of "freedom without control."