silent guy syndrome

[nefast]

Hi guys and girls!,


I'm living with the same girl since 4yo but we will break up soon...(it's only a matter of time)

I am a good looking person but rather introverted..and I have the "silent guy syndrome".

does anybody have some medecine?

 

[Julian]

No idea man. This is on you. Speak your mind. Practice talking.

 

[Starman]

it depends..why are you silent?

whats going through your mind when you want to speak to a girl..but you dont?

 

[DJ Jr.]

Use it to your advantage, girls love silent guys...it gives them a chance to talk about themselves and makes you a man of mystery.

The key is to be confident and not be a wuss...

 

[THA REALNESS]

speak ur mind

just blabber on and on ,speak whatevr u feel like talking about,but i don't know if this is ur personality,why change,do u want 2 do it 4 urself or 4 women?

 

[TesuqueRed]

You're going to have to practice saying 1 thing to each and every counterperson you get whenever you go to the store. Sit down and write out what you might say beforehand, or be prepared for hearing dumbass stupid shyt come outta your mouth when you try it (--could be a good conversation starter, actually...)

When the conversation becomes easy and you have a certain back-n-forth going whenever you feel like it, go to the next level: say 1 thing to at least one person you are next to somewhere in your day. Doesn't matter who it is, doesn't matter where it is (uh, the counterpersons don't count on this since you've already mastered things with them....) Standing in line at a counter--on a bus--sitting the next table over at lunch--etc. Again, practice what you would say if needed, continue doing until it gets fluid for you.

 

[nefast]

thank you all for your fast reply!

Starman : the only thing i think is what should I say!! and most of the time, it create an embarassing moment.


do you have any universal intelligent punch line!?

or some subject more interesting than weather (or similar turn off hehe)

 

[Starman]

ok there is no "silent guy syndrome"

it just sounds like you are anxious about embarassing yourself..and losing an opportunity to meet some girl

in essence, you have underdeveloped social skills..

there is no One liner here to save you..you need to revamp your entire social presentation

there are alot of good tips in the DJ Bible and the tips section that address this issue..and how to become more relaxed and social..and eventually gaining the confidence to speak your mind...