"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Signs women use to gauge your Interest Level

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Guys..I see so many posts on here about simple tests women do to gauge how much of a challenge you are and to gauge your IL in them..Ive come up with some..but Please dont fall for this trap and ask what happened???

#1 HOLDING HANDS - this is body language women use to see if you really like them..its body language for "we are together" and "we like each other"

Hold her hand too soon..and you may well have told her you love her.

#2 Long phone conversations - You are wayyy interested in what she has to say, you have nothing else going on, and she is just sooo interesting to talk to , you just cant hang up!

HANG Up FAST! always be the first to say "Ok I have to go! but we'll talk later!"

#3 Long walks down _______
Long walks with women are symbolic of what people in love do...unless you are drunk..and it came up spontaenously..avoid this stupid harlequin romance novel move.

Women tend to initiate these "long walk" sessions..if they do..just say you are kinda tired..lets take short cuts!

#4 doing Nice things for them others wont - Massaging them, buying them things, expensive dinners, helping them move(when you just met)

These signs all say Im no challenge..I will do ANYTHING to have a chance with you.

there are others..post your own

"I have to go!"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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alas, I wish you posted this a month earlier...

I violated #1, 3, 4 on by our second date. Now it's all screwed...

To make my failure a constructive case, I give you all some brief details:

#1, we were kissing and then I went for her hand and held it in mine. She didn't object and I thought it was fine... (what the heck, holding hands is more intimate than kissing?!)

#3, ouch....I initiated it. On the first date, we talked about how beautiful it would be when leaves would grow back on all the trees along a particular river. On our second date, even before the leaves grew back, I said, let's take a walk along the river. She didn't object, and seemed interested. Why can't women just tell you what they think?

#4, after the long walk on our second date, we walked right to a moderately expensive restaurant. I chose it because on our first date I picked a regular restaurant which was very busy and noisy and she was rather surprised. So, the second date I took her to this dimly lit and nicely decorated bar-grill. She even remarked that it was expensive stuff...I thought she'd be impressed...Well, actually her friend told me that she (her friend) was impressed--I don't know about my girl though...

wish I knew this earlier.... :(
 

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pfft.... what's the deal about holding hands?

David Deangelo wrote a perfect approach on this. Take her hand, then later on, take it away, and accuse her of 'trying to hold hands too soon'.
 

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wish you posted this a month earlier...
Jesus, you've been her a month and hadn't figured all this out already???


If being a fool cost money, this site must've saved me millions. :D
 

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when holding hands..no longer than a few seconds..then scratch your azz or something...just give her a taste

and stop talking about things that are "beautiful"

talk about how you kicked some dude's azz for talkin smack to your sister, how u got in a car crash at this very corner, etc
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Starman


#1 HOLDING HANDS - this is body language women use to see if you really like them..its body language for "we are together" and "we like each other"
No No No you got this wrong...this needs clarification!
You can do the hand holding thing if you do it right!

-Taking a girl by the hand and leading her somewhere shows confidence and develops kino. Basically- you are walking her- always be one foot ahead wherever your going even if it is a little insignificant walk to a bar/her room/whatever. :cool:


-Taking a girl by the hand and swinging it as you stroll pleasantly down the lane shows you a sap. :eek:

There is a difference -'Nuff said
 

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"No No No you got this wrong...this needs clarification!
You can do the hand holding thing if you do it right!

-Taking a girl by the hand and leading her somewhere shows confidence and develops kino."



Umm hello..why do you think I said no longer than 10 secs? (i.e. crossing a street, going over bumpy steps , helping her up if she falls, etc ) is fine..

But most women who want to hold your hand and lock fingers is what Im taking about
 

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sh!t....we locked fingers as well....and I thought all was going well!!! When we held hands, locked fingers and kissed at the same time, I thought I got her heart---darn it...i was so wrong.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Starman

#4 doing Nice things for them others wont - Massaging them, buying them things, expensive dinners, helping them move(when you just met)

Messaging a woman shows that you're interested in them? Huh?!
 

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Massaging is pretty good kino though, so I wouldn't say it's bad.

As long as your not doing it for an hour and you don't do it because she wants you to, it's a pretty good tool in the DJ belt.
 

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massages from the opposite sex make people horny... 'nuff said
 

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I will tll you why messaging is counterproductive

Look at the actual act of messaging a woman. The messager in reality is the subservient role in history.

Would you Rather Massage? or be massaged?

I have a friend that goes on dates ..and starts cracking his neck back and forth..the girl says "are you OK??"

then he says "god I have this kink in my neck thats KILLING me! Could you give me a quick rub?"

Usually, women want to help so they will comply. If they say NO! , he says "Please Im serious! its killing me ! Just for like 10 seconds!, I will repay the favor"

I know girls who have admitted they use guys for free dinners, massages, gifts, etc..that they have no interest in

Go rent the Tao of Steve..this further illustrates my point..the scene where the AFC geek is trying to score..by massaging a chick
 

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Originally posted by Starman
I know girls who have admitted they use guys for free dinners, massages, gifts, etc..that they have no interest in
Granted, if the chick has no interest in f**king you anyway, a massage isn't likely to change her mind.

Plus I prefer to be the recipient anyway.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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*touch* is tricky...

Mukester's right.

It can work greatly in your favor if used properly, or totally botch things up if you cross the line to "clinginess."

It's all a a matter of reading her accurately. It's a skill that develops with experience. Touch is the most effective thing in my arsenal.

If you get a massage going with a gal and she's into it, you're 24-karat gold.
 

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Originally posted by Starman
I will tll you why messaging is counterproductive

Look at the actual act of messaging a woman. The messager in reality is the subservient role in history.

Would you Rather Massage? or be massaged?

I have a friend that goes on dates ..and starts cracking his neck back and forth..the girl says "are you OK??"

then he says "god I have this kink in my neck thats KILLING me! Could you give me a quick rub?"

Usually, women want to help so they will comply. If they say NO! , he says "Please Im serious! its killing me ! Just for like 10 seconds!, I will repay the favor"

I know girls who have admitted they use guys for free dinners, massages, gifts, etc..that they have no interest in

Go rent the Tao of Steve..this further illustrates my point..the scene where the AFC geek is trying to score..by massaging a chick
Mmmhhhmm, that's right. It's very subtle but it is right. It all boils down to why you're doing it. Any of these things that you said are wrong to do, there's nothing wrong with them UNTIL you do them with the intention to get the girl. Do them only on your terms only if you want to.
 
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