jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hey guys, Jhonny here.
I don't want to make a fancy post.
I want to talk about signaling value through possessing specific milestones, rather than through possessing the underlying qualities themselves.
I'll keep it short.
Many of us, never went around telling women our worth.
We just did things in our life, and once some of the results became obvious, once we've showed that we've reached some milestones, certain women seemed to wake up from their sleep, switch almost immediately, and show us their interest.
An example: think about two lawyers. Marco is genuinely excellent, 500 cases, great reputation, one of the best in his city, but he drives a Panda, doesn't use social media and is basically known only within his professional circle. Flavio is an average young lawyer with 15 cases, but he drives a G-Wagon, gives interviews and is constantly visible online. Who looks more prestigious to someone who doesn't know either of them? Obviously Flavio. That doesn't mean he's the better lawyer. It means people can only react to what they can actually perceive.
So, I've been keeping a little text file for a while where I write down things I've noticed women reacting to. I don't really care about what they say they're attracted to. I'm more interested in what they actually react to and do.*
Another example: Take a dancer. He's good at something he genuinely enjoys, so there's competence. Then he starts teaching, so now there's leadership. He becomes known in that scene, gets results and is surrounded by women, so there's social proof and preselection. Suddenly women who were already somewhat interested often become much more obvious about it. Same thing can happen with a trainer, entrepreneur, musician, lawyer, whatever. The occupation isn't necessarily the important part. The qualities he might have or not, too. Infact, He might not possess the qualities, but women rationalize the fact that if He is leading a group, so He must have value.
It's only in a man eyes that He could actually spot if another man has that value for real..women can't do that with their boyfriend, let alone if they can do with others...
There are women that seems interested in a guy for a long time but doesn't really do anything, until he hits some milestone, and suddenly she's much more proactive. It's almost as if the achievement was the only possible way to tell her that this guy had some value.
Contrary to popular belief, women cannot read if a man possess or not true value or qualities.
Women, instead, have to rationalize the fact they have to look out for elements in a man that tells he has value.
So if a man it's a lawyer, so he might be competent, rich, assertive, etce tc, but if a man it's a janitor, he might be unproductive, low class, poor, etc..
Nothing far from the thruth..
So people often say "women can spot in an instant if a man has value or insecurity" we want to rephrase that in "women will see if a man possess specific status elements that could help her rationalize the fact He posses some qualities she looking for in him".
Anyway, that's the pattern I've been seeing. I'm curious whether other longtime posters have noticed something similar. Not what women say they're attracted to, but what you actually did that seemed to make the female radar suddenly light up for that particular man.. that same man they had in their radar for a while, but never intended to make their interest obvious to him.
*So we might want to talk about "Which are those things, milestones a man reach in his life, that signal women and activate them to show their interest for him, and make them rationalize the fact that he has value"?
ps: as soon as I got in shape and got a woman, wonder what an engaged woman did to me? She asked me out, I've broken up with my GF, to be with her. Looked out that only was her FOMO to lose me, infact I ended the relationship since she was so insecure. She didn't want me, she didn't want to allow me to be with another woman.
I don't want to make a fancy post.
I want to talk about signaling value through possessing specific milestones, rather than through possessing the underlying qualities themselves.
I'll keep it short.
Many of us, never went around telling women our worth.
We just did things in our life, and once some of the results became obvious, once we've showed that we've reached some milestones, certain women seemed to wake up from their sleep, switch almost immediately, and show us their interest.
An example: think about two lawyers. Marco is genuinely excellent, 500 cases, great reputation, one of the best in his city, but he drives a Panda, doesn't use social media and is basically known only within his professional circle. Flavio is an average young lawyer with 15 cases, but he drives a G-Wagon, gives interviews and is constantly visible online. Who looks more prestigious to someone who doesn't know either of them? Obviously Flavio. That doesn't mean he's the better lawyer. It means people can only react to what they can actually perceive.
So, I've been keeping a little text file for a while where I write down things I've noticed women reacting to. I don't really care about what they say they're attracted to. I'm more interested in what they actually react to and do.*
Another example: Take a dancer. He's good at something he genuinely enjoys, so there's competence. Then he starts teaching, so now there's leadership. He becomes known in that scene, gets results and is surrounded by women, so there's social proof and preselection. Suddenly women who were already somewhat interested often become much more obvious about it. Same thing can happen with a trainer, entrepreneur, musician, lawyer, whatever. The occupation isn't necessarily the important part. The qualities he might have or not, too. Infact, He might not possess the qualities, but women rationalize the fact that if He is leading a group, so He must have value.
It's only in a man eyes that He could actually spot if another man has that value for real..women can't do that with their boyfriend, let alone if they can do with others...
There are women that seems interested in a guy for a long time but doesn't really do anything, until he hits some milestone, and suddenly she's much more proactive. It's almost as if the achievement was the only possible way to tell her that this guy had some value.
Contrary to popular belief, women cannot read if a man possess or not true value or qualities.
Women, instead, have to rationalize the fact they have to look out for elements in a man that tells he has value.
So if a man it's a lawyer, so he might be competent, rich, assertive, etce tc, but if a man it's a janitor, he might be unproductive, low class, poor, etc..
Nothing far from the thruth..
So people often say "women can spot in an instant if a man has value or insecurity" we want to rephrase that in "women will see if a man possess specific status elements that could help her rationalize the fact He posses some qualities she looking for in him".
Anyway, that's the pattern I've been seeing. I'm curious whether other longtime posters have noticed something similar. Not what women say they're attracted to, but what you actually did that seemed to make the female radar suddenly light up for that particular man.. that same man they had in their radar for a while, but never intended to make their interest obvious to him.
*So we might want to talk about "Which are those things, milestones a man reach in his life, that signal women and activate them to show their interest for him, and make them rationalize the fact that he has value"?
ps: as soon as I got in shape and got a woman, wonder what an engaged woman did to me? She asked me out, I've broken up with my GF, to be with her. Looked out that only was her FOMO to lose me, infact I ended the relationship since she was so insecure. She didn't want me, she didn't want to allow me to be with another woman.
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