I read somewhere that one sign of interest from a girl is when she wants to bust your balls.
This one girl a few weeks ago just couldn't stop busting my balls and singling me out. We had some fairly good conversations with each other and other people at the event we met at. She also invited me and other people there to eat together afterwards and attend a dance class another time.
She also was kind of teasing me for my accent when I was trying to practice the foreign language we're both learning. (I don't want to reveal the language. But it's comparable to how some American-born Mexican cannot speak Spanish well, so some people think they're being disrespectful by 'denying' their heritage or expect them to learn Spanish much quicker than people who don't have Mexican heritage). At first I didn't mind, and I thought it was funny. Then she kept doing it so I was getting a little nervous as I wasn't sure if she was just joking or if she really was trying to mock me and put me down. As in, she was comparing me to a character on a TV show (I haven't seen it so I don't know if that's a good thing or not). I don't usually have a problem with this so I didn't know how to react. Another guy then kind of criticized the way I speak in that foreign language since he (and some of the other people there) thought I should speak it at a higher level since my ancestors spoke it. She seemed to agree. I was mentioning that I just started learning the language fairly recently, but then the girl said she learned it at the same time as me and is not of that heritage, so I should speak it much better than her when in reality I didn't. Then the man said that I must get girls interested in me really easily (I forgot the reason. Maybe because he thinks they would like my accent?) and she said I probably do, but I wasn't sure if they were saying that honestly or in a mocking way. I didn't want to start a confrontation, so I just kept my mouth shut and tried not to be defensive.
Later on, when it was just me and her walking to go back home, I think she sensed that I was a little upset, so she talked seriously about how I speak the language better than her and that other people she knows in my situation have also gotten similar criticism. She may have just said that to avoid awkward silence as we were both heading in the same direction
So was this girl clearly interested initially but lost respect for me when she noticed that I didn't tease her back? How should I react next time? Or was she and the other guy insulting me and trying to put me down?
This one girl a few weeks ago just couldn't stop busting my balls and singling me out. We had some fairly good conversations with each other and other people at the event we met at. She also invited me and other people there to eat together afterwards and attend a dance class another time.
She also was kind of teasing me for my accent when I was trying to practice the foreign language we're both learning. (I don't want to reveal the language. But it's comparable to how some American-born Mexican cannot speak Spanish well, so some people think they're being disrespectful by 'denying' their heritage or expect them to learn Spanish much quicker than people who don't have Mexican heritage). At first I didn't mind, and I thought it was funny. Then she kept doing it so I was getting a little nervous as I wasn't sure if she was just joking or if she really was trying to mock me and put me down. As in, she was comparing me to a character on a TV show (I haven't seen it so I don't know if that's a good thing or not). I don't usually have a problem with this so I didn't know how to react. Another guy then kind of criticized the way I speak in that foreign language since he (and some of the other people there) thought I should speak it at a higher level since my ancestors spoke it. She seemed to agree. I was mentioning that I just started learning the language fairly recently, but then the girl said she learned it at the same time as me and is not of that heritage, so I should speak it much better than her when in reality I didn't. Then the man said that I must get girls interested in me really easily (I forgot the reason. Maybe because he thinks they would like my accent?) and she said I probably do, but I wasn't sure if they were saying that honestly or in a mocking way. I didn't want to start a confrontation, so I just kept my mouth shut and tried not to be defensive.
Later on, when it was just me and her walking to go back home, I think she sensed that I was a little upset, so she talked seriously about how I speak the language better than her and that other people she knows in my situation have also gotten similar criticism. She may have just said that to avoid awkward silence as we were both heading in the same direction
So was this girl clearly interested initially but lost respect for me when she noticed that I didn't tease her back? How should I react next time? Or was she and the other guy insulting me and trying to put me down?
