"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So back in my AFC Days there was a girl I liked alot (I had a severe case of oneitis) and I pushed way too strongly but never made a move, by the time I did she had already found out I was into her (Thus killing the mystery and making her lose interest, she had a good interest level in me originally too.) and she ended up dating a complete beta (WELL **** ME.)

I've played no contact, and the friend that leaked the info that I liked her to her (I'm very selective with the info I give him now, in fact, I find it an advantage that he's a ****bl0cking scumbag now.) has told me her thoughts on some of my facebook posts, so clearly she's monitoring what I'm up to. I understand it might just be her intention to try and get me back as an orbiter.

I have decided to keep doors open (Even though I have a ton of other possibilities right now, which I'm also taking.) , but I want to remind her that I will not put up with the disrespectful action of taking me for a joyride and that if she pulls a bull**** stunt like that (she strung me along knowing I liked her) again that I will simply not put up with it and walk.
Would that be the proper way to handle the situation? I'm expecting her beta orbiter to get dropped within the next week or two, he's a total AFC and he always says **** like "Maybe I'm not that special to her" etc.
( this is in the hypothetical situation she does initiate contact, I couldn't care less if she did or didn't.)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Quit trying to micromanage this girls feelings and start flirting with/dating other women. If this girl is ever going to be attracted to you, it will start with her seeing you pull other chicks.
 
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dap said:
Quit trying to micromanage this girls feelings and start flirting with/dating other women. If this girl is ever going to be attracted to you, it will start with her seeing you pull other chicks.
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As I've said, I'm currently looking into other girls, she is the least of my concerns, I just want to have a reaction to knock her off her pedestal and maybe keep her as an extra plate (Not that important, I have no idea what I was thinking, I was a typical AFC)
 
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Well, spinning plates (women and hobbies etc) is how you show her that you will walk if she tries to give you any BS. Anything that she views as you trying to "knock her off her pedestal" is going to look reactionary (afc). Instead give her no attention at all, and if she comes crawling back you can make her a plate.
 
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dap said:
Well, spinning plates (women and hobbies etc) is how you show her that you will walk if she tries to give you any BS. Anything that she views as you trying to "knock her off her pedestal" is going to look reactionary (afc). Instead give her no attention at all, and if she comes crawling back you can make her a plate.
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Hmmm, I agree, A more appropriate term for my intentions might be to "Gently sweep the pedestal away" If she does come crawling back.

And to be honest, I feel kind of insulted I was ditched for a beta (But I was way more beta back then) but I know I shouldn't let my feelings get in the way.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think you need to put her out of your mind and get busy with other things, and not just for the sake of trying to win-over this one girl. You say "Back in my AFC days.." like it was a long time ago, but I'm getting the feeling that it's only been a few weeks or so.
 
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Rock Steady said:
I think you need to put her out of your mind and get busy with other things, and not just for the sake of trying to win-over this one girl. You say "Back in my AFC days.." like it was a long time ago, but I'm getting the feeling that it's only been a few weeks or so.
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As said, don't want to actually win her over, just get even at the least.
I don't care what she thinks of me, and nor should I care what any other girl thinks, I'll just keep spinning my plates like I currently am.
 
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Indifference is your best friend. Show her you don't give a shıt. Say hello, then ignore her. Who cares? You toy with her like this. Make her your entertainment. If she gives you shıt about it, once again ignore her.

Living well is your best revenge.
 
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