*sigh*...My girlfriend just moved in with me....damn

[ima str8 up pimp]

Hello gang,

I wanted to get some advice. My girlfriend on and off for about three years now just moved in with me because of problems with getting along with her mother and honestly things been going down hill since then. I mean before the move we was very happy with each other, but now lately all we been doing is arguing about petty stuff.
The major of our arguments consists of my girlfriend is kinda of a whiner and crybaby and I really hate whiners. She just recently lost her car and I have been her only source of transportation between school and work for me. She mostly whine and complain about not having a car even though I told her just to save her money and she will have a car soon enough.
It was my birthday yesterday and we didn't even do anything fun, let alone sex or anything. I suggested lets take some time and go out of town for some fun but she insists on staying to save all her money, which is maybe for the best.

Can anybody give me some advice so we can get our relationship back the way it was before she moved in?

Thanks fam

You two have a history together. If you feel anything about her you should know it and no one else. It should really be a personal matter.

Personally between you and I, not trying to sound selfish... I would have sex with any girl that's deciding to stay at my house. It's basically 2nd nature. I have moved in with my last recent ex in the past few months and it was sex every night possible. Even a different ex say 6-7 months ago, we'd broken up a week before but she needed a place to stay for a night when she totaled her car and her mother was going crazy. Of coarse we had sex, it wasn't even a question.

Maybe there are more underlying problems to your situation. Albeit it's up to you and your responsibility as a man. Think thoroughly about what you want, and what you want out of life. You have a lover of three years living with you. If you want her, take advantage of the blessing you have of her living with you.

Jorge Gonzalez

 

[2nd Thought]

Then it is advice you shall be bestowed.

Problems with her mom huh..intriguing. 'On and off' huh? Why havent you found another girlfriend in 3 years? are you waiting for her??...Your relationship going 'down hill'...has it really or has it been there for quite some time and you just havent been paying attention? Whatever the case may be this is interesting so continue...


What is 'petty' stuff? That is a very, very vague word, you must be more precise, perception is all. You may think its 'petty' and she may think its 'serious'..but alas I am talking to you not her so carry on..


If she is a whiner and crybaby then why are you still with her? Do you always date people with the qualities that you dislike, let alone allow them to move into your home? If so, then YOU are the problem. but go ahead..


Sounds like somebody is being used. Or at the very least, somebody is feeling as though they are being used. But, keep going man..


Hm. Well Sherlock Holmes you solved the 'Mystery of the Missing Car' for her but if she wishes to complain, if she thinks the situation will be solved by whining, let her. Nothing you say or do will change that.

Hm very interesting, did she know it was your birthday?...and are you sure she is not just using you for your house and transportation? continue on non the less..

Thats funny. She must save ALL of her money huh? ALL of it? Every last penny huh? And then no sex either right? Is she saving her body too? Will that help her get a car? Hmmm maybe I'm seeing something that you are not buddy. Go on ahead and finish up now..


To make a long story short, you can't. Hard to swallow, I know but it is the honest to god truth. She must be willing to change, and I dont think that is so in this case. I think if you do not dump her and find someone new you will regret meeting her. Dont be suprised if she 'all of a sudden' dumps you and moves out. Seriously. And if that happens dont blame her either, because you heard the warnings and did not heed them. So if you decided to stick it out good for you But hey if things turn sour dont sweat this relationship, you'll learn something from this, and thats all that matters. Good luck with this one though, you'll need it

Thank you for your response. Once it was broken down, I do see the error of my ways. I will take this advice into consideration and make a decision about it today.

thanks

 

[Da Realist]

Truthfully your first mistake was letting her move in with you if you really didn't want her to. If her and her mom can't get along, that's between them. In fact probably because she knew she could move in with you, she made no effort to get things straight between them.

Second, you took her whining seriously. Woman don't want solutions to their problems; they just want to vent till they get off they're butts and do something. I've said it before and I'll say it again: women have to go outside of a city and into another state just to find what's next door. She's moaning about having a car but she has you taking her everywhere, so is that her trying to fix the situation? No. So next time, just listen, say everything is going to be ok, and let it go.

 

[Hidden-Hand]

Thank you for your response. Once it was broken down, I do see the error of my ways. I will take this advice into consideration and make a decision about it today.

thanks

Hallelujah!!! Your welcome man, glad to help I'm sure you will make the right decision