"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sick of women just fliriting with me.....

John_Smith

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I don't need any advice, I'm just getting a little sick of some things

I'm really sick of women just flirting with me. Relationships here are almost impossible to find.

I'm pretty good looking, a lot of women I meet give a lot of green lights, so its not too big a deal if one checks me out. However, almost all (not all) of the good ones are taken and it just getting on my nerves lately.

Whenever I think, maybe she would be good to spend a relationship with, she always ends up having a bf and was just flirting with me.

Eh
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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chevelle

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I have the same problem. i am really good looking probably like a 9, but i always get stereotyped as a player and it's hard to win girls over. They constantly think you are going to cheat on them and it alters their personality and turns them into a psycho. You can't be ****y either, because then every guy wants to fight you. Sometimes, i wish i was just average looking.
 

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hehe,

I'm getting sick of "playerism" and thought of just settling down. But its impossible LOL....seriously, almost all the good ones are all taken. They'll flirt wiht you and let you do stuff with them, but if you ask them to go anywhere, they have a bf.......
 

Cruise

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Count your blessings...

quit being a weenie.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DasaniWater

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to be honest im really sick of my gf using me, only inviting me to her house when she wants to fck....
 

MindOverMatter

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Like most guys, you take flirting too seriously and assume right off the bat that the girl wants you and then end up disappointed when u figure out she has a guy. you should take it lightly and not pay much attention to it.

Personally, I'm still a giant flirt even if I'm in a relationship (like I am now). To me, it's natural as breathing. I will flirt with girls I have no intention fo ever hooking up with, like coworkers, female friends, girls related to my friends, etc. It's just harmless flirting, and it's a way of making your conversations more fun while making the other person will good about themselves (and they return the flirt and make you feel good about yourself).

The point of it all? building people skills, and expanding your social circle. i.e. while that girl who flirts with you may have a bf, her hot best friend may be out of a relationship and looking for some rebound d!ck. don't limit your options just to the girl you're flirting with, look at the bigger picture. you also learn how to create back-ups, so if you're seeing someone and it doesn't work out, you have another girl you can immediatly go to and not skip a beat.
 

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Thanks for sharing... I guess...
 

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John_Smith said:
I'm really sick of women just flirting with me.
fvck you
chevelle said:
I have the same problem. i am really good looking probably like a 9, but i always get stereotyped as a player and it's hard to win girls over.
And fvck you too
DasaniWater said:
to be honest im really sick of my gf using me, only inviting me to her house when she wants to fck....
STFU
 

penguin

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This thread has to be a joke. And everyone agreeing is being sarcastic, right?

Oh please don't tell me this is serious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lol HAHAHAHAHAHAH
oh boo hoo hoo I'm too sexy feel sorry for me please
BBX is right, shut the **** up
 

James Bondage

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Haha yup.

If you have a problem with being 'too good looking' or whatever, feel free to come over to my town where I will be pleased to beat your face into a less appealling shape.
 

thederekeffect1

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penguin said:
This thread has to be a joke. And everyone agreeing is being sarcastic, right?

Oh please don't tell me this is serious.
FVCK YOU!

Marlimus said:
lol HAHAHAHAHAHAH
oh boo hoo hoo I'm too sexy feel sorry for me please
BBX is right, shut the **** up
ROTFLMAO LOL JK ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOP BRB WB STFU!

BBX said:
fvck you

And fvck you too

STFU
AND FVCK YOU TOO!

With that aside, let's act like grown ups. Thank you.
 
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