"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sick and Tired of Rejections and Humiliations

Thefakeslimshady

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I hadn't realized that you have been on this site for 10 years. After going through your older threads it all just seems like the same problems just coming up over and over and over again. After having the same negative mindset for that long of a period of time will definitly take a toll on an individual. This thought process you have been approaching life with isn't healthy and stems from way deeper than just your looks. It will be extremely difficult to Try and change your outlook without outside help. There is somethig else going on that a group of guys on a forum can't help you with. I highly recommended that you see a professional therapist and get help with whatever is causing these debilitating issues.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NeedToImprove

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what options do i have?

i feel miserable. i was at least a 5 or 6 in the looks department when i was younger.

friday i asked for a lighter to a girl who was dancing beside me with a group of others in a disco, i approached her and asked her if she had a lighter politely, she looked at me and ignored me. next my wingmen asked the same thing she smiled and gave him the lighter

he is way older than me and they are younger, in their early 30's, i dont know... it must be a freak

this is the guy

https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd...._=1436094092_52771bca3d0514b16f63aef9e2b18c53



there must be something wrong with me, i must be a ****in monster
 

PeasantPlayer

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I seen guys that look "worse" than you pulling women left and right. Cute girls to and not all of them have a good job. Shave the head, work out eat right, read a book and fix that whiny childish inner voice and turn it in to a voice of a man (yourself) Tell yourself you are a sex machine, and even as you get rejected you will grow stronger. Do the things you love and things will fall in to place. Remember good and bad feelings and experiences don't last forever. Stop with the surgery
 

BrainDamage92

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Dude you totally looked better before you cut yourself. I honestly dont see what is wrong with your looks?
 

NeedToImprove

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BrainDamage92 said:
Dude you totally looked better before you cut yourself. I honestly dont see what is wrong with your looks?
i dont understand, before i cut myself? so i was better with the xxl ears, the ****ed up eyes etc?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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NeedToImprove

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From sluthate:
" Even good male friends will elude him. Since he looks very bad other guys won't be able to enjoy him that much since his face will be tainting his behavior. So when he says things or acts in ways that objectively should be funny it will instead just come out as annoying and "too much". Yet no one will be able to fully admit that or realize that."

and

op has to make peace with several ideas

1 - dumpster diving and accepting that good looking women aint going to be interested BUT you can still have fun with some fugly *****es

2 - *****s/pros

3 - some other weird option
 

dk1990S111

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NeedToImprove said:
what options do i have?

i feel miserable. i was at least a 5 or 6 in the looks department when i was younger.

friday i asked for a lighter to a girl who was dancing beside me with a group of others in a disco, i approached her and asked her if she had a lighter politely, she looked at me and ignored me. next my wingmen asked the same thing she smiled and gave him the lighter

he is way older than me and they are younger, in their early 30's, i dont know... it must be a freak

this is the guy

https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd...._=1436094092_52771bca3d0514b16f63aef9e2b18c53



there must be something wrong with me, i must be a ****in monster
Its all in your attitude man. Im sure he was more confident when he approached asking for the lighter.

When you act unsure of yourself women are guaranteed to act like you don't exist.
 
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